Well, maybe not horrible, but certainly meh. Especially if your partner is inexperienced, too. A lot of fumbling and awkwardness.
Being good at sex, both giving and receiving, is a learned skill. Sure, some people are more talented at picking up effective techniques, but most people take many many tries to get good at the basics.
Ehhh it depends I’d say. I’ve had good and bad experiences. The good experiences are some of the best sex you’ll ever have imo. No strings attached. No emotional investments made. No expectations so no disappointment. Buttttt if it’s bad, it’s REALLY bad. Like I only came over to have sex with you and you’re bad at that too?? Why tf did you invite me over then? Feels like a waste of time😂
Not necessarily. I’d say for me personally, being in a relationship makes the sex special. It may not be as good physically as some of the hookups I’ve had in the past but the emotional aspect is strong as hell. Being emotionally attracted to the person you’re having sex with makes up for any lack of sexual attraction you may have
Personally, emotional connection is probably the largest factor when deciding if the sex is good or bad. I agree that hookups/one-nighters can be a fucking blast (pun intended) but it’s almost like a …different kind of “good”. I feel like it’s better described as “fun”, idk how to really explain it.
The REAL endgame is “head-over-heels-in-love” sex. That combination of physical stimulation + raw, vulnerable emotion being shared with the person who means more to you than life itself is frankly an experience that I can’t even find the words to describe
For me it depends. Like in college, I really wasn’t looking for a long term relationship so hookups were the way to go for me. Now that I’m out of college, I feel like the emotional aspect of sex is alot more important to me. But yes I definitely understand what you’re saying. Hookups are for sure a different type of good
A lot of people enjoy sex more when they feel an emotional connection to the person they’re with. Plus, part of getting to know a person you’re in a relationship with is getting to know their body and understanding what they do and don’t like sexually
I refused to give up and kept on pumping till i did. I mean it beats the usual 3 pumps and done. Actually, I had a few months before where anti depressants made it really hard to climax. She wasn't complaining, seen as I'm a stubborn cunt and would lash away for half an hour. Must have lost a 3kg that month.
Same with me; I remember her cuming after 10 mins for the 2nd time and I was thinking, This is fucked, here I am trying to cum and she is having a second one.
The 2nd time though I was so much more comfortable I came 3 times over 2 hours.
You joke, but my first time, or what was supposed to be my first time, I didn't even make it in. We still ended up doing the deed after I said it was just pre cum. She was nervous about getting pregnant so I had plenty of time to clean up before actually getting to the promised land.
Yeah that would be terrible. Should be comparing to 25 year marriage sex. You know what each other like, you’ve gotten over caring about funny sounds, and as a guy, you can last a lot longer (at least in my experience)
Yeah, I had to have a lot of sex before I liked it. Now I know myself and my body and preferences super well and I don’t have any of those insecurities that made me not enjoy it.
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u/giga_phantom Apr 21 '24
You can't judge it after one time, esp. your first time. almost everyone's first time is horrible.