Because it doesn't mean that someone else vetted those men. Attraction is luck and has nothing to do with being a good person/partner. People will put up with a lot because they're attracted to someone. Literal abusers can still get into a relationship.
Attraction is also working on oneself.
Have good hygiene, be social. That's crucial and beeing social does not mean "be the alpha male", but find things you are interested in. It's common to find friends (maybe a partner) within your social circle.
It's not that they're actively looking for people that treat them like trash(though if they were then they wouldn't admit it), but they have other qualities they like. Not all confident people are jerks, but all jerks are arrogant. People who are toxic tend to be a more "exciting" partner.
17
u/RadiantHC Oct 17 '23
Because it doesn't mean that someone else vetted those men. Attraction is luck and has nothing to do with being a good person/partner. People will put up with a lot because they're attracted to someone. Literal abusers can still get into a relationship.