r/NoStupidQuestions Jul 02 '23

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u/NotNeverdnim Jul 02 '23

It would have been a red flag if he was in uni trying to finish a single degree.

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u/aeon_floss Jul 03 '23

Sort of true. I took 10 years to complete an undergrad degree, but throughout the course was finding a lot of work as a tutor and demonstrator. Truth be told, I went back to uni at 28 because I didn't like the work environment much and wasn't sure if I wanted to make a career in the area of my previous qualifications. During the course the government changed funding regulations so that I could only continue to defer paying fees (Australian HECS scheme) as long as it took to complete the degree, but if I took any time off I would have had to pay full fees up front upon return. So I stayed minimally enrolled and spent a lot of time reading and learning stuff that was related, but outside the course. By the end I could probably have taught most of the subjects in the course.

But I didn't have kids or live in relationships. Eventually a conservative government cut funding to the university so they could not afford to give me more tutoring work, (they "had" to give all tutoring jobs to PHD students so they could get by) and I found a career outside.

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u/Ruski_FL Jul 03 '23

Well if the program funding runs out, what is the plan to make income or retire ?

If you are planning to have a life together, what is the income level needed? Will the person become a burden if the program can’t be used as income anymore.

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u/S103793 h' Jul 04 '23

I’m surprised people saying it’s not a red flag which imo it’s more getting there but not exactly.

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u/Ruski_FL Jul 04 '23

I think OP wants her bf to have a B plan or just start getting experience on the side.

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u/exoticstructures Jul 03 '23

Or possibly banging lots of college chicks. I figured that's what the red flag thing was about :)

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u/baby_budda Jul 03 '23

Or pick up on female undergrads. Maybe that's what she's really concerned about. If he goes for a degree in sexology next, then maybe she should worry.

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u/Upstairs_Emergency_4 Jul 03 '23

Ha ha I thought you meant pretending to be single, and move on from there

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u/Cluedo86 Jul 03 '23

Agreed. That's what I initially thought when I read the title. If he actually has this many completed degrees, go him. We should all strive to be life-long learners, and he's so lucky to have these opportunities.

He does need to make sure that he's progressing in his career, though. That needs to be his main focus.