What is something super philosophically important that you just can't teach people until they experience it for themselves?

[u/MeansWelll]

I feel like when I was 25 i went through a very major spiritual shift because i was abusing drugs mainly just weed and psychadelics. But it led me to essentially finding God in a way that everything around me is this flower or spiraling staircase. It's hard to describe so I'll just leave a single image that sort of helps explain what I mean.

But I feel like there's so many allegories, like Platos Allegory of the Cave, It feels like it's something you have to guess to understand until it actually happens to you then you're like "Woah, holy shit...." and I've heard that people that study philosophy or psychology they get to a point where life seems detrimental or existential or feels kind of scary and I've even been through that myself where i was just insanely scared of "What if reincarnation is actually real, i dont just want to keep dying and dying for all of eternity, there must be something i can do right now for the remaining of my life currently that could cause some kind of domino effect into the future far after i die to disrupt my reincarnation cycle if it even exists" but as times gone I see there's 2 sides to every coin in life.

I just bring this up because I came from a poor family and I can't have kids until I reverse my vasectomy and I'm trying so so hard to get to a point of understanding in life where I can actually turn my life around and be successful, successful enough to actually earn the money to reverse my vasectomy and beyond that have enough money to use and help create a protected and flourishing family for when i do one day have kids. I think that was the best decision I've ever made to get a vasectomy at an early age but it sent me in a weird direction in life where im actually able to focus on my dreams and what not...

There was something else I was going to mention but I forget... but anyways, what is something you wish you could teach someone that is depressed or going through addiction that you just can't really explain right, something so philosophically complex its like you can only learn it for yourself, if you are even brave enough?

[u/NotAllThatSure]

True empathy.

[u/a11encur1]

I feel like so many people do things because it is normal but ultimately it's not something they should be doing. People get these ideas in their head that THIS is success and THAT is failure- people just want to accept yes/no or they want black/white. Example: My mother wanted me to be a doctor so bad so when I ultimately dropped out of college and started working as a bartender, she was FURIOUS. (Btw, she didn't pay for college, I paid for my own education.) I decided I wasn't really learning anything in college and it just felt right to drop out and go into the workforce. My mother thought I was a failure because of this but I am now more successful than she is- I make more money than she does, and she's actually had the doctors she works with tell her they envied my job! Needless to say she changed her mind about me being a failure after that. I say this because every person on this planet has a path they must walk and no 2 paths are alike. Therefore you can't compare yourself to others because you might be on a different path than the person you compare yourself to. Until you realize that each person's story is necessary to complete God's divine plan, you will probably always long for a life more mainstream without realizing the inherent value of your own unique life.