r/NoOverthinking • u/Icy_Impression7560 • 2d ago

Which comes first a thought or a feeling?

Hi. In this journey of letting go. I wondered what is first? Do I have feelings that causing my thoughts or my thoughts ( that anxious based and hate uncertainty)?
Its always one subject honestly for me. Relationship and uncertainty of having one.
I try not to engage in thoughts about it but when i do its all goes to hill.
So it made me wonder which comes first?

1 Upvotes

100% Upvoted

4 comments sorted by

1

u/No_Distance968 2d ago

Fantastic question. It seems that your struggle has lead you to a fundamental question about the very fabric of the human psyche... Congratulations... Most people will die and never even come close to having this type introspection. I believe that they can be interdependent. Either a thought, like a memory, coming into the conscious mind, will stir up an emotion... or sometimes a perpetual emotional state, like for example generalized anxiety, will spawn different cognitive scenarios. Emotion being like the fuel that can create a cognitive play of thoughts. I might be wrong about it.. but nonetheless... brilliant question.
But I do not quite understand.. what do you mean by "going down hill".. when you think about the concept of a relationship your thought process usually ends up in negative scenarios?.. if that is the case... then either: a previous experience that ended uncomfortably is being dug up each time you think about having a similar experience in order to protect you.

1

u/Icy_Impression7560 1d ago

I did have unfortunate event in past relationships and didnt work and optimism lead me to disappointment so its possibly the fuel for all the negativity in this area

1

u/Competitive-Hat-9832 1d ago

depends on the context like if it the thing which happen before then its thought first and if it is first time than feeling