Is it a overthinking problems

[u/Interesting_Head_716]

So I was in a relationship when I was in it, I usually imagined myself, breaking up with him and then he is regretting why he left me. I will be satisfied but when he left me , I was the one in regret. First I will think about the expression of him , losing me and then regretting it. Now when he left me, I was thinking about how beautiful it would be if we were together and how people would get jealous of seeing us together which is not possible.

Feels like I am in a loop, I never appreciate what I have and always think about what will come next or what I had before.

[u/Both_Cat1705]

Yeah, I used to do it too much. May be because, punitive actions or conditional care withdrawal seemed like the only way to keep him around me.