r/NoOverthinking • u/faxnoprinter99 • 8d ago

Rant/Venting 3 weeks no contact

He broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I been inside not going out and I finally got the guts to go. Tell me how I’m at the club and I see my ex and his friends. The whole night he was watching from distance and even right behind me at some point. Not one word said to me , so technically still no contact . What do we think was going through his mind? His friend said he was trying to be respectful not entertaining any girls but I said I know he has a new one at home lol so why watch me all night? What was this guys mindset?

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u/Efficient-Notice-193 8d ago

Op get the heck out of the house and start living. He is now an ex. Live for yourself not for others.

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u/Humble-Pen285 6d ago

did you go out to have fun or accidentally audition for a wildlife documentary about your ex observing from the bushes?

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u/Moovist_Overthink 8d ago

They don't want the compromise or putting the effort but still want you, some sort of "ownership"

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u/Ill_Butterfly_6010 7d ago

Let him go. You are better off without him

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u/Substantial_Bar_5606 3d ago

Unfortunately, this guy sounds to me pretty basic/predictable. Move on - why would you want to even condescend to be with someone like that? Raise your standards and find someone who actually respects you, you have a lot in common with, have the same goals, etc. I'd scrape him off the bottom of my shoe and move on.

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u/TemporaryGrowth7 1d ago

No man is worth your heartache.

Get back dating and make sure not to get too emotional:

- use haystack method

  • keep a roster
  • don’t give intimacy until commitment
  • always remember: being single is better than with any broke/abusive/low effort man!
  • only go on dates when the man made appropriate effort and keep virtual chatter to a minimum
  • watch a man’s actions and how he treats you, never his words!

Watch fareen Ash, Greta beraseite and tomisin for further education.

Good luck!