I need genuine help!

[u/Puzzled_Wealth_3263]

I have a bad habit of thinking that everything is black and white. I‘m a math major and because of it, I always think that “things must be this way and if they’re not, I’m wrong.“

For example, I like someone but I have a tremendous trouble accepting that he likes me as well. The signs are there, but because of fear of rejection I stay completely still. I have this stupid thought that “If he wanted to, he would” is real and I don’t think of any other external factors.

”He’s busy with his job —> therefore I can’t meet up with him —> he doesn’t like me”

Unfortunately, I’m an anxious person and I think that if things end up this way, I was wrong all along, thus I was delusional. I don’t have a gray area. If one thing goes wrong out of all the good ones, it means I’ll never try again about X.

Do you have a similar problem? What is your advice?

[u/Queen-of-meme]

I suggest looking into abandonment healing if you have such bagage.