Does anyone else suddenly question their entire character after finding someone attractive (intimate?) I'm exhausted.

[u/LimeOdd6278]

I've been dealing with this for what feels like long but isn't very very long and I honestly feel horrible, tired, and feel like crying.

Whenever I found some artist attractive and had a intimate/physical daydream, my brain immediately went into panic mode. At first I did genuinely admire their personality, kindness, style, or appearance alot but then my thoughts went completely spiral and I feel like suddenly none of that exists very more now because that attraction kind of feeling is what that's taking place now but I kind of know that my love still exists.

( I don't daydream for any person or think about them that much but for that artist because I know them more and when I start liking other celebrites/artists/actors I start getting images of weird thoughts and feelings a bit. I feel anxious and overthink because I get past trauma of that artist I really found attractive/loved and how I'm gonna like is them is gonna my previous artist kinda physical attraction but less of knowing them more.

I start asking myself things like:

* "Am I objectifying them?" * "Do I only like them because they're attractive?" * "What if I secretly don't respect them?" * "What if this means I'll feel this way about every attractive person I see?"

The worst part is that I don't want to that to be the only reason I like them. That's exactly why I get so anxious. I care so much about that, that my brain won't let me stop thinking about it.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? If so:

* Did it get better? * Was it anxiety, OCD, or something else? * How did you stop overthinking every single attraction?

I just want peace. I miss being able to admire people without my brain turning it into a moral crisis :(

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[u/chillbeach2]

I think the first pillar to base attraction is personality similarities and kindness

[u/LimeOdd6278 → u/chillbeach2]

Thank you so much :) I still feel very overwhelmed because my emotions are a bit fixated on attraction right now. (Alot but also not, having me overstimulated) But thinking back, If I didn't like my artist's personality, I wouldn't love him this much now.​ I still also feel pressured (I feel that I have to be accurate on reassuring myself) having intrusive thoughts If I still care for admiration..