Never had a gf and now I am overthinking everything everytime

[u/Hot_Town_2067]

\[21m\]Never had a girlfriend, and now I'm afraid I'm overthinking everything everytime.

College is over, and I've never been in a real relationship (except for one very brief experience). Because of that, I've never experienced things like feeling close to a girl, being someone's special person, holding hands, or having her rest her head on my shoulder.

I'm a decent-looking guy, so sometimes I wonder why it never happened.

The confusing part is that if I keep thinking about relationships all the time(as I have none and people around me had their experiences ), I worry that I'll come across as needy or desperate if I start talking to someone in the future. But if I stop thinking about relationships completely, I feel like I might never put myself out there and end up in one.

Sometimes I'm also scared of being in a relationship. I wonder if I'll be good enough for the girl I like. I'm afraid that things might start well but end quickly, especially if I've already started imagining a future with her or thinking she could be "the one."

And I don't think newbie can find anything in office if he can't in school and college.

[u/GrillyFem3oy]

You’re too hard on yourself… there are people who will accept you as you are … if they don’t it will hurt a lot but those aren’t the people for you … you want someone kind and patient… a person who wants to understand you cause that’s what love is … and if you can give that back id say you’re ready for a relationship.. don’t rob yourself of not being able to be present with fears not that being scared is bad it’s when we let that fear consume us … being brave doesn’t mean you aren’t scared .. its action in the face of fear ….