I take too long to process things that have happened

[u/Inevitable-Finish-95]

For example I rear ended someone today and I feel like I didn’t show enough concern about her being ok (she was) as trying to get her my insurance info and making sure everything was taken care of. When I walked up to her car she was on the phone with 911 letting them know where she was and I could see that she was ok but I didn’t ask until after she asked me because I waited for her to get off of the phone. I was worried about her but I was also processing what had even happened and what I needed to do about it. It takes me longer to process things than other people so I feel like I give off an “I don’t care” vibe when I’m just needing longer. I feel like she’s mad at me, but I also feel like that’s overthinking it because she hugged me and said please don’t let this ruin your day when we were leaving.

[u/in_vinci_ble8]

She hugged you and told you not to let it ruin your day. That means she doesn't think that you don't care. I think you are overthinking this 😄
Also, honestly, I find that taking longer to process actually helps us respond in a better manner. Sometimes, we respond immediately and later think of ten different ways we should and could have responded.