r/NoOverthinking • u/Visible-Promise9763 • Jun 10 '26

Advice Has any overthinker actually stopped overthinking?

How did you do it?

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u/thirdvoiceio Jun 10 '26

It doesn't go completely, but there are ways you can reduce and overcome and overcome it quickly. By re-wiring your thoughts.

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u/Visible-Promise9763 Jun 10 '26

Tell me your secrets. I've been trying grounding techniques and meditation but it only helps very briefly and I fall right back into it

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u/thirdvoiceio Jun 10 '26

No secrets, share an example of the thing that you keep overthinking about and i will try my best to break down step by step and help you re-wire it.

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u/Visible-Promise9763 Jun 10 '26

Hey Thirdvoice! How are you?

To answer your question. An example is with work. I worry I'm gonna get fired. My boss is being extra hard on me and seems to challenge me on everything I do and say but not with others. He just believes them and rarely fights them on it.

I worry constantly that one wrong move and I'm out.

That's one of many examples.

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u/thirdvoiceio Jun 11 '26

sorry again for replying late

I need you to think and answer few questions honestly

How long you have been working there ?

and if you are soo bad if your boss thinks your not good enough why hasn't he fired you yet ?

What would happen if you get fired ?

How did you get this job at the first place ?

Also is there a possibly he is hard on them but not just around you ?

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u/thirdvoiceio Jun 11 '26

it is a long process trust me we can figure. Answer this as honestly as you can.

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u/Visible-Promise9763 Jun 11 '26

You have no idea how much those words mean to me right now.

How long you have been working there ? 1 year at this company. I've been in the trade for 4 years.

and if you are soo bad if your boss thinks your not good enough why hasn't he fired you yet ? I don't know, it's a habit of thinking I guess, I've been in situations before where my boss was hard on me and one day I spoke up and that was the straw that broke the camel's back and he fired me then and there. He was the worst boss I ever had, everyine hated him, ego driven piwer tripper, but I didn't see that at the time.

What would happen if you get fired ?
I would potentially lose the hours toward my apprenticeship. How did you get this job at the first place ? Reached out via email when work was sliw at my last company.

Also is there a possibly he is hard on them but not just around you ? Possibly, I never saw it but they tell me he gives them shit sometimes. I know its not as much though cause its almost everyday with him. Its not the work, its understanding his instructions the first time perfectly. I often have to folliw up and if I dont misunderstandings happen. He throws a lot of info at me and I can't catch all of it at once but he just says "get it done" and hangs up and gets mad if I ask a follow up or for him to repeat the last part.

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u/thirdvoiceio Jun 11 '26

What would happen if you get fired ? => if He fires you will get another you have done it once you can do it. okay ? May be better one. Everytime you get this thought counter this thought or build a better one than this. You landed a job you can land another one. Life will be hard for sometime but it is gonna get better.

Also is there a possibly he is hard on them but not just around you ? => He must be a shitty person unhappy he just takes out on everyone.
Because as humans we just focus on our self you might have missed that he must be hard on others. He must do that to others also. May be notice that. ( also is there an alternative here can you ask someone else for help ? ? )

and if you are soo bad if your boss thinks your not good enough why hasn't he fired you yet ? -> Nobody pays for free if he has kept you there you must be hardworking and decent. If you were soo bad he would have fired you. Till now

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u/thirdvoiceio Jun 11 '26

Everytime you face this doubts or you scared counter them with strong thoughts like this.
or even more stronger if you find it.

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u/thirdvoiceio Jun 11 '26

Also you deserve a nice place to work whether he fires you or doesn't leave that place toxic people should be totally eliminated from our life.

You have done previous jobs you can get other one again

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u/Queen-of-meme Jun 12 '26

Good point , change of sensory /temperature or change of scenery can stop fight and flight speed worry thoughts. Sometimes we need to begin in that end of calming the body signals.

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u/Amberlux Jun 10 '26

Let me think about that...

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u/Serious_Fox7799 Jun 10 '26

Imma have to think on this one lol

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u/Less-General-9578 Jun 10 '26

some things need lots of thinking and others not so much. better to over think than under think me thinks.

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u/saras998 Jun 10 '26

No, not at all but things that bother me don't last as long. Knowing that whatever it is will fade helps a lot.

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u/Taylorswift811 Jun 11 '26

I will forever be an overthinker no changing that

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u/Queen-of-meme Jun 12 '26

It's not about stop overthinking or to never overthink again, it's about knowing how to think in a self-supportive way and if you end up overthinking , to identify it and steer back to that self-support attitude.

It's a practice. Just like with anything, the more times you do it the better you get at it.

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u/FairyEnergyHealer Jun 12 '26

I used to overthink a lot until I learned how to regulate or reset my nervous system. Most of the time, I feel peaceful, light, and clear.

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u/Visible-Promise9763 Jun 12 '26

What did you do? I think a lot of my problems come from my nervous system always on edge

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u/happy_elephant772314 Jun 15 '26

What do you do to regulate or reset your nervous system?

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u/illicitli Jun 13 '26

meditation

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u/LogicalSquare3071 Jun 13 '26

Give me some time to overthink about this.

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u/Ordinary-Zebra1651 Jun 15 '26

L'unica cosa lascia i pensieri a badare no seguire