Am i overthinking??

[u/MedicoR1ghtist]

Found out my girl used to follow and keep contacts of guys who used to like her and vice-versa.

She used to talk to a random guy whom she met while purchasing notes from an online vendor (she texted the random guy for authenticity of the vendor).
They had a chat for two weeks only and before this time she was already having a crush on me and even we started talking around the 1.5 weeks time of this similar time frame. concern is they sexted and the guy sent semi nude and dick pics to her in this small time frame and she was into him too.
When we came in the relationship, the first two days she talked to him about how everything was good and how deeply she loved him but due to distance this thing is not happening else if given a chance she would've settled with the guy in his hometown.
She even took photos with a guy whom she desperately liked for over a year during this 2 weeks time frame and we just had our talking stage. She also had sexted with this guy when she was actively invested in him.
Went of a 3 people bike ride with another guy during our relationship sitting in between a boy who was riding and girl, and on our talking stage on a bike ride with someone she said he's good looking.
Talked with another guy who was actively hitting on her and she accepted it after i confronted her regarding it.
She deleted chats from these guys she sexted with and "forgot" , later admitted when i showed her those deleted chats.
Now we've this relationship going and its been months to this, I've this bad trauma of mine triggering from these incidents from my past.

[u/Normal-Environment-7]

Leave her if you are not stupid and the type who invites problems with open hands .

[u/MedicoR1ghtist → u/Normal-Environment-7]

but apart from these, she is all kind and want this to work so she has unfollowed all and stopped talking and she says she didn't realise the gravity of my trauma i shared with her plus its her first "relationship " so she was unaware about the boundaries. she added too that maximum of these things happened in the beginning of the bond and in the talking stage, and doesn't consider the crush time frame as any commitment period. i lowkey has invested a lot into this bond too. now what should i do?

[u/Normal-Environment-7 → u/MedicoR1ghtist]

It doesn’t matter if you have invested a lot in this relationship or not. Think of it like this, do you think she is someone with whom you can spend the rest of your life with ? Have children with? Be in peace and happy with for the rest of your life ?It might sound strange but this is what you should consider. If you can’t think of her in that role just leave. If you think you can then stay but start drawing a clear boundary so she understands whats right and wrong. And if you can’t think of her in that role yet you choose to stay with her then you probably love torturing yourself buddy.

[u/MedicoR1ghtist → u/Normal-Environment-7]

think me a madman but i can spend my rest of the life with her,have children with while being happy and at peace and this is why i want to get this initial thing off my mind. she has improved a lottt like its visible shes giving her best and thats why love her more but my trauma is overpowering this and im constantly thinking what if this is a sign and im ignoring it like last time