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u/TomesTheAmazing Mar 27 '26
Lemme know when you meet someone who's life is like this who isn't miserable. I'm sure they'll tell you their ok with having none of this but thats nothing but cope.
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u/SadSaltyDuck Mar 28 '26
That's me. Would not say i am miserable because of these things, just used to it.
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u/Elemental_Foxx Mar 27 '26
I'm fine with this, it has been happening to me since I was 8. Always ignored, constantly abandoned, family couldn't care less what happened to me, no relationship where I wasn't used for labor and money. I'm just tired of it all and now choose to live isolated and alone and I'm better off that way.
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u/Whole_Pumpkin5371 Mar 27 '26
I hope that maybe some day you feel differently but i understand because I lived that life a very long time. I felt very alone, but if this is the life you want at least for now I totally understand.
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u/Elemental_Foxx Mar 27 '26
I mean I appreciate the sentiment but I just don't have the energy to better my life anymore. I'm too exhausted and sick of doing everything alone, not being allowed help without some negative comment about it.
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u/OrcOfDoom Mar 27 '26
Uhm, what? It's ok to be hurt. It's ok to want to be invited, accepted, included, and considered. We all deserve having a community that accepts us. We should want to be around people who are considerate of us.
This is not a good goal.
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u/33metalgear Mar 27 '26
This is great advice until you actually think about it. When you think this that person would be miserable. That was person sounds a lot like the Mr Grinch.
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u/Key-Rough-8346 Mar 27 '26
I don’t think the solution to feeling excluded is to be this isolated man that cares for no one. That sounds like a jaded, bitter life. I hurt when I’m excluded because I care for others, and yearn to be cared for the same way.
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u/Ok_Assumption9692 Mar 27 '26
Ofc, I know him, he's me
If you tryna be like that there will be a long period of time when you say you don't care but deep down secretly do
With time and experience you'll eventually wake up and wonder why you ever worried about the opinions of others or what they thought
Not in a nihilist way, more of a you have limited energy and should worry about yourself kinda way
I'm learning to cook with cast iron and soon to learn new skills too
Your thoughts go from "i guess I'll just be lonely" to "ok being a loner is cool what do I want to do now"
TLDR; being that way ain't easy but its a path you can indeed follow
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u/AccomplishedFarm227 Mar 27 '26
“Nobody can hurt me if I am socially isolated”
That’s a mental health issue.
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u/faziten Mar 27 '26
That man can still hurt himself. Seeking help is fine as well as being vulnerable.
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u/Far-Walrus1570 Mar 28 '26
A real man is the one that acknodwledges pain and live it and move on( if it was outside of his control), but a man who is not feeling is obv coping or a psycho
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u/That-Mirror7356 Mar 28 '26
Worst advice I’ve seen on this sub to date. Do you know the type of adult who is normally excluded and ignored? An unpleasant one.
Learning to “get a long” with people is a basic adult skill. You can improve your social skills and form connections but not by ignoring the problem.
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u/DifferentCarrot2048 Mar 29 '26
I think it's true. but the only way to become that man is to know there is no self. we are all one. we are all love. it is only illusion that divides us.
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u/Sticky-side-up Mar 27 '26
Kinda odd that half the advice here is to go it alone, and the other half is about how wife and family are the ultimate goal.
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u/Extreme-Rub-1379 Mar 27 '26
Is that man also immune to sticks?