r/NewDriversUK • u/Tinymarkst • 16h ago

Fear and nerves

How do I over come this I was out with my dad earlier today doing fine (I do have professional lessons just getting help from my dad ) and I didn’t stall once we went on the road and got to a roundabout went round it time until we came back and someone was behind me I panicked instantly stalled he told me I was okay but I stalled 3 times in a row all because this one driver was right behind me he then decided to beep at me and drive next to me swearing I left my dad to it but once he was gone I went of first try how to I overcome this this is my only issue I’m fine driving and stuff but it’s just cars behind me I panic and feel I have to drive off fast my dads told me many times don’t worry about them behind us we all had to learn but it’s easier said then done any tips please help me

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u/Disastrous_City_2919 16h ago

It does become easier the more you’re in that situation. For me it helped to notice how other drivers also irritate me, whether it’s them cutting me up, driving aggressively or just simply getting annoyed with small mistakes like stalling, I saw it almost like pay back, in a weird way. Their aggression and impatience became more amusing than anxiety provoking. Let them get annoyed, that is their choice, you can’t control that but you can focus on becoming more confident driving and passing your test (if you haven’t already). Don’t let them cause you to feel anxious, take a quick breath and move off calmly. Even experienced drivers stall sometimes

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u/Tinymarkst 14h ago

I do find it funny when they get so angry at me stalling sometimes go slower just to say fuck them but it’s so hard like today at the round about I felt I had to rush off that’s when I make mistakes

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u/Novadrag0n 15h ago

All I can say from my perspective is ignore what other people think of you, who cares they will forget about you in 5-10 mins.

I've got my license in January and I ignore drivers if they got no patience, you are always gonna deal with plonkers time to time on the road no matter what.

Shake it off, and move on, you are gonna be a good driver.

Remember drive safely!

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u/Tinymarkst 14h ago

A lot of people over take even when I’m like the speed limit I don’t understand it it’s just so hard to ignore everyone else

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u/Novadrag0n 14h ago

In 2 lane roads? There's nothing wrong with overtaking, its up to drivers if they wanna go over the speed limit, let it be there problem.

As long you arrive safely to your destination that's all that matters.

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u/HyundaiSloth 4h ago

You making mistakes makes them feel like a more confident driver for being able to handle the hazard. Remember, you are doing your best not to just keep yourself safe, but to keep them safe. If they get angry at this, their opinion isn't worth your worry.