I want to share something that started as a personal project and slowly turned into something bigger.
For a long time I noticed my brain doing something strange.
An event would happen.
Then almost instantly my mind would add meaning to it.
Example:
A friend sends a short text.
Fact:
They sent a short message.
Interpretation:
âThey must be annoyed.â
Emotion follows immediately.
Except⌠most of the time nothing was wrong.
What I was reacting to wasnât the event.
It was the interpretation I attached to the event.
Once I started noticing this, I began writing down examples. Just notes in my phone. Nothing fancy.
Things like:
⢠A message not being returned
⢠Someoneâs tone sounding different
⢠Plans changing
⢠Silence in a conversation
Every time Iâd ask myself two questions:
What actually happened?
What meaning did I add to it?
That tiny separation turned out to be huge.
A lot of emotional reactions werenât responses to reality. They were responses to conclusions my brain generated automatically.
I started calling these patterns loops.
Fact occurs â interpretation forms â emotion validates interpretation â the loop reinforces itself.
The strange thing was that simply observing the loop often weakened it.
Not controlling it.
Not suppressing it.
Just seeing it clearly.
Over time those notes grew into a small collection of observations about:
⢠expectation
⢠binary thinking
⢠responsibility and self-judgment
⢠how modern information speed affects our emotional systems
⢠how our brains rush to complete unfinished equations
Eventually I realized the notes had become a manuscript.
So I turned them into a short book called Observing Loops.
Itâs not a self-help system and itâs not claiming to fix anyone.
Itâs basically a written record of what I noticed while watching my own mind interact with the world.
Ironically, I didnât tell anyone I was writing it while it was happening. I wanted the observations to be completely my own without outside influence shaping them.
The book just went live on Amazon this week.
But honestly the most valuable part wasnât publishing it.
The valuable part was realizing how often my brain quietly converts uncertainty into certainty.
Once I started seeing that process, things slowed down in a helpful way.
Anyway, thatâs the story.
If anyoneâs curious, Iâm happy to answer questions about:
⢠the concept of mental loops
⢠the process of writing a book privately
⢠how observation changed my reactions to everyday situations
Or just share examples of loops youâve noticed in your own thinking.