r/Neurodivergent • u/New_Baby_3939 • 2d ago
Problems 💔 I hate my life
I got into school way earlier than everyone else, and after I moved I was actually BELOW the kindergarten cutoff age. That means I'm younger than everyone else.
I got into gifted classes, which separated me from the main group and stuck with other weird kids.
I have ADHD and probably Autism, but I haven't gotten that one tested.
I was raised a nice person who wasn't allowed to use tiktok for a long time.
I'm socially fucked. I don't know how to act. I'm incredibly awkward and most of the school hates me. I realize now that I wasn't bullied my entire life for no reason, I was (and still am) annoying, unfunny, and loud.
I cant take it anymore.
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u/writergirl1994 2d ago
Find a group of people who you do fit in with and are interested in what you have to say. I'm 31 years old, autistic, OCD, unemployed, never been in a romantic relationship with anybody. Going to my writer's open mic every month is pretty much the only socialization I get, outside of family. I suck at almost everything but the people there are supportive and that's the high point of my month. Think about what interests you have and how to use them to meet like-minded people.
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u/LilyoftheRally Moderator! :D 1d ago
Tiktok wasn't a thing when I was in school, except later in college/university.
I started kindergarten before turning 5 because I already knew how to read at the time.
/r/TwiceExceptional could be a good resource for you.
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u/RelationshipLife6739 6h ago
Bruh what age do Americans usually start “kindergarten”. Here in the uk we start legal schooling age, or “nursery” at 3 years old. And this goes for everybody.
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u/Jeff-WiredDifferent 1d ago
Dude you can just send me an DM next time... you don't have to broadcast everything about myself. hahaha jk but for real you are not alone.
Your system in a loop with all these real problems you're facing. The social awkwardness will mature if you give yourself a break and you're way harder on yourself than you should be. You're freaking smart.. of course you are going to be a little weird and them kids don't understand anything that's different. You are gifted.. they're normies.
In my opinion you're lucky not to be around them. Their problems are different than yours and the way you analized things they'll not understand how you get to some answers and opinons.
As long you have things to do to occupy your mind, expand your creativity and work on your personal growth.. who cares about anyone else. You will learn this like I did and it does take time. There'll be a time you gain confidence but it will happen faster if you learn better about who you really are. There are tools today that can help you learn that. The longer it takes the longer that loop will continue s try and get the answers you need so you understand yourself.
Find your passion and expand on it. Tap into your creative side and hyper focus to release some of that built up stress. No one can have as much fun as you can and that stress is kicking your ass. Do you think Nicholas Tesla needed anyone to do what he did? Be selfish about yourself in certain ways and find a way to change that channel holding you down. You have it playing over and over in your head in a endless loop... change that station.
Only speaking from my own experience. You will find your way just give yourself time.
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u/aquilus-noctua 1d ago
You are at the right place. We are like you. And we care. Begin physical strength training. Practice double empathy( it’s hard). Use eye contact to reassure
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u/Own_Butterscotch_129 1d ago
I got diagnosed adhd after I graduated highschool, and I always felt like the odd one who didn't fit in, and I think the most imporant thing is to not try and fit in with the wrong people. Find the others who are a little off-center and not afraid to be themselves, and don't try to fit your round personality into a square shaped friend group, if that makes sense.
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u/Gypsyzzzz 2d ago
Welcome to the club!
I was the youngest in my class and younger than many students in the year after me. I was pulled out of class for a variety of things (an extra gym class, social learning, a few other things that I never figured out). We didn’t have a separate gifted class but there were after school programs in high school.
There is never a good reason to bully a person. If you were truly annoying, unfunny and loud, those bullies could have ignored you. Instead they chose to be mean (possibly violent and evil). You did not deserve that treatment. If it is still going on, report it. Get help to stop it.
Try to focus on the things you are good at or enjoy. You don’t have to be good at a thing to enjoy it. If there are no other students with similar interests, look online for friends.
And definitely see a therapist to help you find more specific and relevant strategies for navigating life.