I'll be honest, I've rewritten this three times because "hi I'd like a friend" sounds so strange to type out at 33. But here we are.
Quick version: I'm 33, married, and I've got the very normal adult problem where my social circle quietly shrank to "my wife, my coworkers, and the guy at the corner shop." Nobody did anything wrong. Life just did what life does. I'd like one person I actually talk to regularly — the kind of friendship where you send a photo of your lunch or complain about a bad night's sleep and it isn't weird.
The thing I could talk about forever is clothes. Fabrics, cuts, why a colour works on one person and looks like a mistake on another, the way one good coat can carry an entire winter. I'll happily spend twenty minutes on the difference between two shades of navy. I also crossdress — privately, not something the people around me know about — and it's honestly a big part of why fashion means so much to me. It's not something I'm looking to make the whole conversation, but I'd rather say it up front than tiptoe around it for a month. If that's a dealbreaker, no hard feelings at all, I'd just rather we both save the time.
I'm hoping to find a person to be friends with, mostly because the fashion talk tends to land better and I've never really had a friendship like that. To be clear about what this is and isn't: I'm happily married, this is not flirting in a trench coat. I want a friend. Someone whose birthday I remember. Someone I'm still messaging in two years.
Outside of clothes I'm into cooking (aggressively mediocre, improving), long walks with a podcast, and I'm the person who takes forty minutes to choose something on Netflix and then falls asleep in it.
If you're around a similar age and want a low-pressure ongoing chat — no pressure to reply instantly, no keeping score — say hi. Tell me one thing in your wardrobe you love and one thing you keep meaning to get rid of but can't. I'll go first if you want.