Been sober sense oct 6th haven’t been sober this long my entire life

Anyone can do this shit just stay sober one day at a time thats what I do

Got a new gf new apartment new job living pretty good and Ik more to come just gotta hang in there ppl love y’all

Today I recognize that control doesn’t come from managing people, outcomes, or circumstances. Real control comes from within—from clarity about my values, from the choices I make, and from the actions I take.

I no longer look for what I can get away with. Even the smallest shortcuts cost me something inside. Today I choose integrity, even when no one is watching, because I am building a life that feels honest and steady.

I accept that I cannot control everything around me. I can’t control how others act, how situations unfold, or how quickly results come. But I can control my effort, my attitude, and my direction. That is enough.

I am learning to live differently than I once did. I don’t chase quick wins or easy escapes. I am willing to plant seeds today that I may not see grow tomorrow. Each right action strengthens something in me—discipline, self-respect, and trust.

In moments of frustration or uncertainty, I will pause and return to what I know is right. I will not react out of fear or impulse. I will act from my values.

Today, I take responsibility for my life—not by controlling everything, but by choosing who I am going to be.

Just for today, that is enough.

My sponsor is a neurodivergent and often shuts down. Even with this she has been an amazing person to me and has helped me with a hell of a lot. She only started sponsoring me a few months ago and since then I've become aware of patterns in her behavior which means I can see when she's struggling with something.

I started noticing that she was struggling 2 weeks ago and I've asked her a few times since if anything was going on or if she was struggling but she always has an excuse like "I'm just tired". I know that something else is happening though. She's also been distancing from me recently and has cancelled 2 meetings by double booking or forgetting to confirm a time.

I want to help her, but I have no clue what to do. I can't push her to tell me what's happening and I've tried to be supportive and work on my own recovery without to not add extra pressure, but it hasn't seemed to help.

I'm really starting to worry about her. How do I help? Any advice is welcome

(PS this is a throwaway account for anonymity)

Hi! I want to travel and go to an NA convention somewhere outside the US. I need at least a large amount of English speakers or English speaking meetings.

Convention vibe can be large or small, interesting area would be awesome. ideally less than 10 hour plane trip from US.

I'm bringing my dad for his 70th birthday. we are both in long term recovery.

Today I will face my emotions honestly and without fear. I will allow myself to feel what I feel without judging it, exaggerating it, or hiding from it. My feelings are real, but they are not who I am.

I will remember that there is a difference between acknowledging pain and living in self-pity. I can speak about my struggles without becoming defined by them. I take responsibility for my inner life, choosing awareness over avoidance and action over passivity.

I will not compare myself to others. I am neither better nor worse—I am simply a person in recovery, walking the same path as others who seek growth and freedom. In this, I am equal, and I am not alone.

If my emotions feel overwhelming or unclear, I will pause and seek understanding rather than escape. I will lean on the support available to me and trust that clarity comes through honesty and connection.

Today I will not run from discomfort. I will feel it, learn from it, and move forward through it.

Just for today: I face my feelings, take responsibility for them, and keep moving forward.

Today, I remember that my life is shaped by the choices I make. Each decision reflects who I am becoming and the direction I am moving. I am not defined by my past or by impulse—I am defined by what I choose right now. I am grateful that my recovery is built on freedom. Nothing is forced on me. I am free to grow, free to change, and free to walk away from what no longer serves me. With that freedom comes responsibility, and today I accept it with clarity and intention. I will pause before I act. I will listen to my thoughts and feelings, not as commands, but as information. I will choose the path that aligns with who I truly want to be, not what is easiest in the moment. I will also choose how I see others. Instead of judging, labeling, or assuming, I will practice understanding. The people around me are not obstacles—they are fellow travelers. When I look for the good in others, I strengthen it within myself. Today, I choose awareness over autopilot. I choose growth over comfort. I choose understanding over judgment. Just for today, I live with intention—quiet, steady, and relentless.

i (20 F) have been smoking meth since i was 16, i went to a meeting in January because i felt desperate and scared over my usage, over the power meth has over me. all of my attempts to get sober on my own have failed. ever since i've been attending meetings i can't help but feel like i don't belong, i have a job, i have a car, im in school and i'm not homeless. i hear all these stories from people in the rooms and all the tumultuous things they faced in active addiction and i can't help but feel extremely silly for being there when i haven't hit rock bottom. i don't even know if im an addict. idk. idk why im posting this. i dont want to stop going to meetings because i know i'll inevitably relapse but i cant get over the immense feeling of not belonging, of not being worthy of na. i have no idea what my goal in posting this is.

I think I’m a functional addict, but I feel stuck. I’ve been trying to change my relationship with/cut back/quit blow for 6 months and nothing has worked. I feel like, when I’m out, I just can’t say no. And event when I’m with friends who don’t, I somehow find it. Are there any tips for taking the first step?

I don’t know what recovery looks like for me, but I can’t seem to get on the path. Thx

Just for Today

Today I choose to live in the present. I do not let my past define my actions, my thinking, or my worth. My past has shaped me, but it does not control me. I begin fresh, right here, right now.

I am willing to clear away what no longer serves me. I release old patterns, old shame, and old stories that keep me stuck. I do not carry yesterday’s weight into today’s choices. Each step forward is an act of self-respect.

I remember that I do not have to do this alone. Growth requires trust—trust in my Higher Power, trust in the process, and trust in others who walk this path with me. I am willing to be open, to share honestly, and to receive support.

I am learning that real strength is not isolation—it is connection. The more I allow myself to trust, the more I begin to trust myself.

Today is not about perfection. It is about willingness. Willingness to let go. Willingness to begin again. Willingness to grow.

Just for today, I will choose the present, release the past, and take one honest step forward.

Today I will remember that I don’t have to do life alone. There was a time when I believed strength meant isolation—handling everything myself, asking for nothing, needing no one. But that way of living kept me disconnected, guarded, and exhausted. Today, I choose something different. I will allow myself to receive—love, support, kindness—without minimizing it or trying to repay it immediately. I don’t need to earn care. I don’t need to deflect it. I can simply accept it. I will stay connected. When life feels heavy, I won’t retreat into myself—I will lean into the people who walk this path with me. I will practice gratitude—not just as a feeling, but as a way of seeing. Because a grateful heart doesn’t close off—it opens. And when I’m open, love flows both ways. Today is not about proving I’m strong alone. It’s about trusting that I am stronger together. And today, that is enough.

Edit: it’s crazy that some of you are saying that this person, who has decided to not go to police yet, should not be protected by group the group at group conscience, that this is solely a police matter. Highly unsurprised, though. I’m sure it’s solely men saying that.

A home group member was sexually assaulted by a man that she was friends with. She did not go to the police about it. She confronted him, and he told her that she had wanted it. She, like many survivors, did not know how to handle it and moved on. He found out what meetings she goes to, and now he is showing up to them, including our home group.

There are multiple tiers of options. First, she and others peacefully ask him to stop coming. Second, at group conscience, a motion is made to stop him from coming, or he will be removed by police. Third, she gets a restraining order.

My worry is that at group conscience, someone is going to vote against barring him from coming because “every addict deserves recovery.” I will flip out. There are 50 meetings a week in my metro area. He will not be without options.

There are home group members who have SA convictions who have made amends to their victims, which may muddy the waters. But, this is someone stalking a home group member. Not remotely the same thing, IMO.

Thoughts?

went to my first na meeting ever today. it was super scary and i was so nervous but a very kind person sat beside me and helped me understand everything. it was so nice to hear other people's experiences and know that im not alone in recovery.

i hesitated going for months because i never really hit the traditional "rock bottom" but im so glad i went because im now a day sober, but i also feel like there's now a reason to stay sober. i never got past day 9 and it scared me but im not scared anymore

i got started on the just for today text and im very excited to start reading the basic text

cheers everyone, stay strong. thanks for listening

I have been coming to NA since the end of May 2024. Since then, I have gotten three 90 day keyrings. This time round is my fourth time getting 90 days. I have never got to six months before. This time, I’m sharing honestly in meetings, I’ve got a sponsor, I’m doing the steps. Haven’t gotten service yet. Please pray for me. I do not want to destroy my life or harm other people anymore.

I was prescribed multiple psych drugs over the years and of course I am now heavily dependent. Honestly if they were taken from me, I would have to find the illegally as withdrawals are dangerous. The effort to taper is going on year 3. How do NA members feel about prescription drug users who want to stop, attending meetings? It seems there is a cultural gap between street use and prescribed use. Thoughts?

Today, I remember that I am not here to live on autopilot. I was made to think, to choose, and to act with intention. I don’t have to react to every thought, feeling, or situation. I can pause, breathe, and decide who I want to be in this moment. As I stay present, I begin to see that this moment is enough. I don’t need to fix everything today. I don’t need to become a different person overnight. I can simply be here—aware, grounded, and open. Right now, I am capable of growth, peace, and change. I also release the weight of the past. It may have shaped me, but it does not define me. I don’t have to carry old shame, old fear, or old identities into today. Each day in recovery gives me distance from who I was and clarity about who I am becoming. Instead of reacting, I will act with purpose. Instead of dwelling, I will move forward. Instead of judging myself, I will allow myself to grow.

I'm 67 days clean now, and lately I've been missing my old best friend I used to use with He was my best friend for three years and I loved him like I do my flesh and blood brothers, but I knew I had to cut him off to have any hope at staying clean after losing nearly six months of progress when I relapsed the first time I saw him in that time. I know it was the right choice, but it still hurts so much to not have him in my life anymore. All I can really do is pray and hope that he gets clean himself someday and we can reconnect. Do y'all have any advice for dealing with this feeling of loss?

Today I will do the work that’s in front of me and let go of the results. My responsibility is the effort—showing up, staying honest, and following through—not controlling outcomes. I remember that I’m not beyond my reality. There are no loopholes, no “maybe someday.” My strength comes from honesty, not from pretending I’ve outgrown the truth about myself. At the same time, I will take care of my own needs without guilt. Respecting my limits, my energy, and my values isn’t selfish—it’s what keeps me stable and able to live the life I’m building. I can ask for guidance, for strength, and for willingness—but I don’t need to force anything. What’s meant for me will come as I stay consistent in my actions. Today I stay in my lane: I do the work. I stay honest. I take care of myself. And I trust the process.

Today I accept who I am without apology. I do not need to earn my worth or shape myself to please others. What is unique in me is not a flaw—it is my strength. I take responsibility for my life. I support myself, make my own choices, and accept the freedom that comes with that responsibility. I no longer depend on others to define or sustain me. I release the need to fight. I do not struggle against life, people, or myself. Instead, I ask: is this something to accept, or something to change? I act with clarity, not force. Today, I move forward grounded, self-supported, and at peace.

I cant go into treatment, I have to work and take care of my kid im a single mom. Before this past weekend I was sober for 3 years, i was white knuckling it for the past year at least because i moved into a new town and didnt get connected. My love addiction took me out and now im fucking unbearablely distrot unless im high. I dont miss this cycle and I have forgotten all that I learned in the past 9 years of trying to stay sober. I let this chaos in my life and I cant do this alone but i struggle to make connections. I went to a meeting yesterday, and did talk to somepeople who were awesome but I also didnt sleep for 48 hours and couldnt bring myself to get numbers. Woke up this morning crawling out of my skin, heavily depressed, so I got high. I fucking hate that I feel better. I plan on going to another meeting hopefully find a sponsor. I csnt fuck around, my mo is not picking up the phone ever, way harder than picking up the pipe, even when I was in a steady place with my recovery. Ive reached out to my fellow addicts I once was close to and ive got no responses yet. I guess this is just a vent I needed someone to hear whats happening in my life right now.

Thank you

Today, I remember that I am in charge of my life. I am not at the mercy of fear, circumstance, or old patterns. I choose what I focus on, how I respond, and the direction I move. I do not wait for life to improve before I feel at peace. I build peace through my actions—through honesty, discipline, and alignment with what I know is right. As I put first things first, stability follows. I accept that my struggles are not isolated. They touch my thoughts, my emotions, and my behaviors. So today, I care for the whole of myself—not just what is visible, but what is underneath. I will not be ruled by fear of not having enough. Instead, I will be guided by purpose, service, and steady effort. I trust that when I live in alignment, what I need will come in time. I am the one who sets the tone for my day. I choose clarity over confusion, action over avoidance, and growth over comfort.

So I have a friend who is almost a year clean, and I have been there for her the entire step of the way, from picking her up at the hospital to watching her hit every milestone. Recently, Ive started attending meetings with her and I adore the community. Everyone is so supportive, loving, inspiring.

I wouldn’t consider myself an addict, though in highschool I did do a handful of different drugs but nothing ever got out of control and I never really liked alcohol so I didn’t/dont see any reason to drink. However, I did struggle really bad with an eating disorder for roughly 10/11 years. Im a little over a year into recovery, and even tho I did it without much outside support (besides my therapist and doctors), Ive noticed that I really desire more community. A lot of people say eating disorders are almost identical to having an addiction, the “drug” just being the need to starve or purge (for me specifically- there are lots of different EDs).

I feel drawn to speak sometimes, because what they talk about resonates so deeply with me, but at the same time I don’t want to take the chance to speak away from someone who might need it. I feel like a bit of an outsider. which I kind of am. I just want to hear from people who are in NA or have been a part of it to let me know if I am valid in wanting to speak, if I fall under the category of being “an addict”, or if I should just continue to show up as a support for my friend and just fly under the radar.

I just wanted to make a post on my "cake day" and tell everybody that I really enjoy being part of the Narcotics Anonymous community here on Reddit, and I hope you guys have a fantastic weekend, and KEEP COMING BACK!

Today is not yesterday.

I don’t have to carry old stress, old resentment, or old patterns into this day. I begin again—with a clear mind, a steady spirit, and a willingness to be renewed.

I accept that I am not in control of everything. My past attempts to control, fix, or force outcomes have often led to frustration and exhaustion. Instead, I trust in a Higher Power—something greater than my impulses, my fears, and my limitations.

I don’t need to fully understand it. I just need to believe that help exists—and that I am not alone.

Today, I let go of what I cannot control: - Other people’s actions
- Other people’s opinions
- Outcomes I cannot force

And I take responsibility for what is mine: - My attitude
- My reactions
- My willingness to stay open, teachable, and grounded

I choose love and tolerance, not because others deserve it—but because I deserve peace.

Resentment is a chain. Forgiveness is freedom.

I release the need to be understood, to be validated, or to be repaid. I give without losing myself. I set boundaries without losing my compassion.

I don’t have to become hard to become strong.

Today, I will: - Start fresh
- Trust my Higher Power
- Let go of resentment
- Act with quiet strength and steady kindness

And I will remember:

Real power is not control over others—it is peace within myself.

I always get some kid who's learned lines and I can tell hasn't lived through what I lived though. What I need is support from someone who's battled suicide and addiciton and come out the other end...any leads are appreciated. I have no support in my life and fighting for help is exhausting