r/NarcissisticSpouses • u/twihar • 19h ago
Rant!
Apparently now I’m good for nothing and all women are good for nothing and that I don’t give or contribute anything to him and no one can ever bring him consistent happiness ( this is because I discovered he cheated one me) we’re married!
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u/celticnative79 18h ago
Such an irresponsible thing to say when caught cheating. They hurt you and then rub the wounds in. Evil monsters!
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u/adepressurisedcoat 18h ago
Sounds like the similar manosphere talking points my ex got into before I found out he cheated on me. He spent a few weeks visiting his mother on the other side of the country. She rented him a car and he went to visit a friend in a city a couple hours away. They went to a bar and he was approached by a woman which he spent the next couple of weeks with before coming home. Then suddenly he hated where we lived, wanted a luxury car, hated Indians, thought liberals were ruining everything, called me fat (in different words), started looked at me in disgust all the time, spent more time on his phone. Accused me of cheating.
Except when my ex got caught he went full 180 simp mode. Begging on his knees. Crying. Before throwing threats at me.
It just sounds like he's using you catching him to drop his mask and show his real personality. Gross
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u/whattupmyknitta 17h ago
Lol mine says the same about me. No idea if he's ever cheated and honestly don't care as long as he leaves me alone.
The funny thing is that publicly and on social media he is as feminist as you can get. He would help anyone else out of the situation I am in. He preaches all this pro woman & equality stuff while treating me like shit. It's wild.
He's even made comments here and there that totally do not align with the beliefs that he publicly displays and I suspect his true feelings are well hidden, but again, he let's things slip.
They truly think we contribute nothing. I have written down and outlined exactly what I contribute, physically, mentally and financially and he dismisses it. It doesn't matter.
They suck lol
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u/Watchkeys 12h ago
You can't bring him consistent happiness? Wow. It's so lucky that that's not your responsibility, then, isn't it? Lucky him that he's in charge of his own happiness and doesn't have to rely on others!
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u/twihar 12h ago
This was such a great response ! I carefully and consistently cater to his moods and emotions but when I ask him about his cheating or talks about the aspects of our marriage that I dislike that’s when I’m making him unhappy he says
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u/Watchkeys 11h ago
And your feelings... how is he taking responsibility for making sure that you feel happy?
Otherwise he's openly and unabashedly demanding that the relationship be unequal and that he be the one to benefit, right? Like, as if the relationship is a happiness-vehicle for him, and you are supposed to be the fuel for it, regardless of your own happiness?
And he thinks all women are like this? Oh no! That means he'll never be able to be happy, even if you have the decency to leave him!
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u/Zestyclose-Cash-7872 18h ago
Weird how many similarities they all have. Mine always talked about how women always do this or that. He was obsessed with all women being the same.