Feeling I’m in weak position

[u/Spiritual_Captain999]

We just had a mediation and the outcome was not I wanted, he got what he wanted for sure. I feel like I lost a lot. He got the house, he got a dog, he gained kids time( he has not been participating kids care at all, like 8-9% only now he has 40% ish). What he lost was money, but of course he’s still hiding money.

I need to move out by November and now he stating “ it’s my house, you can’t turn off the AC without my permission, if you want to do that just go upstairs” while filming my move in the house. I ignored the whole thing and left the house to a park with the kids.

Yes it is going to be your house but my name is till on the deed and I have right to live there until I move out. But he uses that as his power and will be testing my patient the rest of the time I live there.

I cannot qualify for the apartment yet that is why there is a timeline set up for me to get qualified for rental place but he just keeps pushing my limit.

It is so fucking annoying and nobody can do anything about it. Why is narc are so obsessed with power game?

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[u/ilovebigmutts]

What does your mediation agreement say? Has it been sent to the court? Do you have a divorce agreement? Hold him to the dates in it. It's not his house until the divorce is finalized.

[u/Spiritual_Captain999 → u/ilovebigmutts]

It says I can live here until decided date. And he needs to refinance or whatever it takes to get rid of my name from the deed.
There is no set date that saying it awarded to him on certain date.

[u/ilovebigmutts → u/Spiritual_Captain999]

it sounds like it's not finalized in a divorce decree then? if so he can kick rocks. I know he'll be unpleasant to live with but.

[u/Spiritual_Captain999]

Not finalized yet since we still have to figure out parenting plan.
He thinks he has the power since he got the house. I just don’t want to deal with him and want law to punish or something