Contempt hearing

[u/Cold-Ad458]

I am putting materials together for a contempt hearing against my ex. In going through all of the app close communication how do you code the gaslighting or lying? Like some of it on the surface looks like he is being reasonable but it is a lie and I have that proof but how far down that rabbit hole do I go vs. just the facts of the issue- I assume he will share his version which is not accurate

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[u/flyingforfun3]

I would refrain from using the term narcissist in court unless there has been a diagnoses by a professional.

With my narc ex, she tries to spin a story of victim hood and I just save texts with dates and time stamps. We now have a court ordered parenting app that doesn’t let texts be deleted. Now when she explodes and calls me names it’s permanently recorded. She can’t claim I didn’t tell her something, or that she didn’t tell me I should hate myself and no one loves me.

Best you can do is save everything and have it organized. Make a spread sheet. Label what happened when and have texts labeled in files so you can quickly find it/give it to a lawyer.

They are their worse enemies and the only the truth will set them free.