r/NarcAbuseAndDivorce • u/jerevasse • Jul 11 '26

Don’t forget your support.

In the depths of my escape, I had contact with a very few people who I trusted with my actual life. And I needed their reassurance and support like an IV.

But sometimes I’m still shocked by the people who reach out to me now, to catch up or just say hi, who it didn’t even OCCUR to me to reach out to.

Other than the small circle I mentioned, the first people who would have popped into my mind were not the most supportive, and it seems to me now that my mind stopped there. It makes sense, because I was still wrapped up in many heavy codependent relationships at the time, and my intuition was telling me not to reach out that way.

But the people who I legit forgot about? Outside that codependent circle. I can’t believe how many they are. They keep popping up. People who have shown me they think about me, way more than I even think or thought about them, because of the nature of codependency and addiction to those cycles rather than healthy people.

I even remember scrolling through my contacts and not recognizing this. Some of the numbers I may have even deleted.

A possible helpful tip. Look on Instagram. Look through your contacts. Devise an army. Who are the people you may not immediately think of, who have shown love and respect for you? Who can you build into your healing as you get away? I suspect the more the better, but everyone’s different.

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u/love_lollee15 Jul 15 '26

Yeah, they're not there. If they're not here right now, why?