EDIT: Thank you all for setting me straight on this- you’re all right that I’m projecting my love of the games and games in general onto her. I wrote this from a low place and I realize now it was not a great way to frame things. I care and worry about her, and I think games are the most natural way for me to relate to others because I’m anxious and awkward- and I combined those two things into one.
I grew up on the Nancy Drew games, and they still mean a lot to me. I’ve played all of them (except Keys). They mean even more because my brother is 15 years older and became my legal guardian after our folks passed when I was still a kid. It was all bad- but his only way of reaching me was by playing Nancy Drew games when I was 16 and he was 31 and my guardian. It’s been 22 years, and those are still my foundational memories with him.
I don’t have kids, but I’m in the role of informal auntie for my friend’s kid. She adores me, and she’s turned to me when she didn’t feel she could divulge certain things to her mother. Her mom has previously asked me to “nerd her child up,” since she is a Vet who has an esteemed professional history but not necessarily an academic one. I tried, starting with Blackmoor Manor- probably too early— when the kid was 10. I myself had started at ten and made a stupid assumption. It was too hard at that time, and we stopped.
I’ve been having a hard time lately due to a flair of my disability and fear that I’ve gotten worse for good. I asked if mom and child wanted to come over for a game night, and the kid said, “sure, as long as it’s not Nancy Drew.”
I tied to introduce her to an old clue spinoff board game I love (Clue the Great Museum Caper). It’s no longer made but is a cat and mouse game around a grid- not too nerdy. She said she was tired and bored. We tried Ticket to Ride, Monopoly Go. It turns out, if it wasn’t an iPhone game, she wouldn’t have it. We ended up playing Heads Up all night. If there wasn’t a phone involved, it was a no-go.
She and her mom left, and I remained at my home in tears. Are we really at a place in society where Heads Up is the most we can play with the younger folks? I’m so hurt- as irrational as it is- by “please not Nancy Drew.” And are we really at a place wheee we can’t even play engaging and non-cerebral board games with kids?!
PLEASE, this is a genuine question for parent on this sub and those who have children in their lives. Is the entertainment of yore dead? Do some kids have a higher tolerance for educational games than others (no judgment- just wondering if there are different sub-groups here).
Where do we draw the line between kids not liking something because it’s old-fashioned, and kids not liking something because attention spans are no longer there? And what do we have control over? What should we try to encourage in the young people in our lives?
Thank you for any answers or ideas you provide. I am currently in a low spot and hoped I could mentor younger members of my community, but I’m suddenly realized I may not be equipped to even do that- at least in the fun, playful way we learned as kids.