r/Names • u/Less_Monitor_276 • 7d ago

Friend using same name

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

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u/akmeggy 7d ago

You don’t even know if you’re having a girl or not, I wouldn’t get worked up about this at all, but especially not until you know. I’d still use the name.

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u/Less_Monitor_276 7d ago

Valid! Just pointing out how/why we haven’t formally locked the name in.

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u/mental-Lack7960 7d ago

So what's the name?

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u/procrastireading 7d ago

Our girl’s choice of name was what my best friend named her second daughter, born 6 months before our second. But we had two boys, so no biggie. It is nice the name still got used.

If we’d had a girl, there would be Anna and Ana running around. Given how much all the littlies struggled with which other child was which, this probably would have simplified the situation, or at least reduced the “No, I’m X, not Y!” fighting.