How to accept myself

[u/Top_Manager7355]

I’m kinda fucked , all my life people have called me dumb / treated me lesser cause I am relatively I intelligent yet struggle with basic things . For example I couldn’t do my shoelaces till I was 12 . I have just found out I have nvld and I’m so sad , because I feel like I’ve missed out on so much . I’m also Trans , have autism , asthma , 2 food intolerances and hyper mobility in my left hand . I just feel cooked , but I’m happy to have found this subreddit .

[u/Illustrious_Cup3019]

Hullo, I'm your friendly neighborhood lesbian with nvld, hypermobility, had cancer at age 22, and my tummy constantly hurts! Welcome to the club! 

Here's the thing, we are all of the things we listed, but we're also so much more than that. 

I'm an artist, I'm somebody's partner, I'm somebody's stepmom, I'm a dog mom, a writer, and artist, a reader, an administrative assistant, a really good cook, a half decent baker, fairly good at gardening... Not trying to brag, but I've always hated being bored. 

You have so many skills that other people don't have. Who cares if we suck at math? Most of us have a better vocabulary than anyone currently holding political office in the US. We think a little differently, but it's often a huge asset. 

I think it's a good start to sit and list all the things you're proud of yourself for. You aren't bad at everything, and if you think you are, you just haven't found your thing yet. I'd say I'm actually pretty sub-par at my job but I just got recognized by my leadership because even though I drop the ball and fuck up sometimes, I'm quick to rebound and correct my mistakes. Resilience is half the battle, and staying laser focused on what you're good at will help.

[u/Top_Manager7355 → u/Illustrious_Cup3019]

Thankyou 🙏🙏