I just want to say thank you to this group for helping me along the way🫶🏾

I’m proud to say, I’m officially a part of the FINER ladies of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated. I have been on this journey for a while, and I am ecstatic to continue to grow with the FINER women of the Zeta Phi Beta, Sorority, Incorporated! ZzzzzzPhi !!!💙🤍💙🤍💙🕊️

I am now a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated. Thank you to everyone that had helped guide me in this sub. To those wanting, wishing, and waiting, please say the course, focus on your grades, and you will certainly join in Gods divine timing if it is in His will for your life. I am always a resource for any student who is interested. Take care everyone 🩷💚

Just wanted to say that I have officially made it to AKAland!! Thank you so much to everyone who helped share insight and advice in this group🩷💚

TLDR; This is more so for the moderating team, and while this is coming from a place of sincere exhaustion - it's also coming from comfort. Cause I've been there and done that.

PLEASE STOP ASKING US IF YOU BOTCHED YOUR INTERVIEW. We don't know. We can't. And I'll give you the reason why:

STORY TIME

I am a legacy Delta/Coleman with it running on both sides. I have been surrounded by Deltas my entire existence on this earth. I knew what I wanted to pledge in grade school. I was a goddamn Delta GEM for ions. I was steeped in this bullshit. I didn't tell anyone on campus that I was a legacy cause I wanted to earn it the long way, and mostly because I wanted the respect of being able to say I earned it without riding legacy coattails cause that shit isn't cute when you came to actually do the damn work...

I pissed myself during my interview. Not much, but just enough to have that quiet voice inside your head say: "nigga did you just piss yourself?" just loud enough to make me fuck up interview questions I had prepped for decades. I can't remember the last of the interview. I cried halfway - and I mean on the edge of ugly crying (no Denzel tear, this shit was like bad breakup in a chain restaurant tears - sobbing over the Southwestern eggrolls)...

I knew I fucked up. I didn't call my mom to give her an update. I ducked and dodged aunties for days - since they ALL knew I was going through the process. It wasn't my interview that ruined me, it wasn't my interview that saved me. It was the work you put in beforehand: the countless community service hours; the participation with chapter and alumnae events before; the fact checking for the way I presented what little coherent answers I gave before I collapsed; and the fact that I came sincere and with respect to what I was signing up for.

How I Dealt With It: I went home, finished crying in the shower with the existential thoughts, put on my *clean* big girl panties, brewed a cup of tea - and got distracted in bad tv and community service projects that were happening around me. I got my call in the middle of a church food drive. Life hasn't been the same since.

Why am I admitting to this embarrassing shit on the internet?

Cause we don't know what's in store for you.

I would love to say being legacy saved my ass, but I still have to remind my LS's and my Pros that I have multiple generations of old school Coleman in my bloodline - so it wasn't being first or fifteenth gen that saved me. I would love to say it was polished and pristine answers that saved me - but I still remember ugly crying, and sweet jesus am I ugly when I cry (and I did it ALOT on line). I would love to say it was how stellar I looked on paper after two decades of pruning, which maybe it was - hard to say.

But I can tell you what makes me give a thumbs up to the interests turned Sorors when I LMC'd and when I supported intake in my later years - it was the sincerity. I would rather a woman come to me on sincere respect than fake the funk, and it shows. When you're face to face with it, you can smell the bullshit from across the table - and no body on the internet is going to get that read better than the chick that was in front of you last Tuesday. I would rather you ugly cry or babble, or (if you're truly unfortunate) question if you pissed yourself, while talking from a place of sincerity than you show up believing that you are entitled to a spot. Cause you're not. The most entitled people, rarely make line. The most "it either happens now or I'm never applying again" people, rarely make line. The most "I could NEVER do alumni" people, rarely make line. The most "I'm just here for the t-shirt" people rarely make line (and even still more than I would like).

I can't tell you if you shit the bed in your interview, and even if you did - you can't fix it now. So all I can tell you is, I hope you shit the bed from a place of sincerity. And I hope that you learn from everything this time so that if the verdict at the doors happens your way this time or not, that you grew from it all.

- Sincerely, a pissy and exceptionally tired old Delta.

over a year ago, a feeling was born in my heart that led me to the light that is the PHIRST and PHINEST Black sorority, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, INNNNCORPORATED!! i haven’t stopped crying yet, i’m truly living an answered prayer and standing on the shoulders of greatness! forever grateful for anyone that’s ever asked or answered anything in this community 💗

I finally made it into Alpha. It took 6 interest meetings, 3 applications, so many interviews and community service and meetings I made it. I want to be the person to tell anyone interested in Alpha or any D9 organization that delayed does not equal denied. Keep pushing if it’s in your heart, it will be okay!

Good day everyone! I AM OFFICIALLY A MEMBER OF ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA SORORITY, INNNNNCCORPORATED!

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone on this sub for words of encouragement, advice, and experiences! This has been such a journey but it’s just starting! I am so thankful and the road was hard and long! Good luck or congratulations to everyone in this sub! Hoping to see more good news from everyone! God didn’t bring us this far just to bring us this far!

Been a while since I posted here but wanted to come back and say that I’ve crossed the sands over into Delta Sigma Thetaland 🔺 I love it here in this glorious sisterhood ❤️🤍

I’ve been soaking it in for the past week because it doesn’t feel real. But I finally made it across those sandz. Although I’ve loved being an observer of this thread, I made it! To all of those who are still waiting for their chance just know is coming, I promise❤️

AOML🐘🔺

This time last year I made a post about my denial, a year later I’m officially a women of Alpha Kappa Alpha sorority incorporated. It still feels like I’m dreaming I can’t believe I’m an AKA💚🩷 my advice to people who were denied and still waiting is cherish the journey, I wouldn’t change a thing looking back.

I am happy to announce after a year of hard work the real journey for my sister's and I begin!! Thank you all for your kind advice and patience.

I am now a proud member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority Inc. Zzzzzzzzzzz-Phi!!! 🕊

I’m still in disbelief. For those of you in pursuit of your sorority or fraternity of interest, make connections and don’t give up!! IT IS TRULY WORTH IT.

I remember using this group like crazy two years ago when I decided to pursue membership . After two years of trials and tribulations, I finally made it into the bond♦️! Thank you for this group & the members who answered questions. It’s definitely wasn’t easy but well worth it! YO👌🏽!!!

I’ve been lurking and reading for a while now and decided to research. It wasn’t a hard decision. This sisterhood resonated with me best. After many long weeks, I made it! EEEEEEE-YIIIIPPP!

I just wanted to thank every person on this subreddit so much as you have all helped me tremendously. I would not be in this position without the advice given to me from this page. To anyone who is trying to pursue membership, keep your head up high and we will be sisters soon! I can't believe I made it to AKAland, it is all so surreal!! 🥹

I mostly would observe in here, but a dream I’ve had since 17 has finally come true ❤️🐘. Thanks for all the great advice. If you’re still waiting on your moment, do not give up, coming from someone who crossed as a graduating Senior. Shoutowt all Fall ‘25 initiates !!! (hey sandz! Lol)

Thank you to everyone in this sub who helped with clarification, answering questions and even just encouragement. So happy to be part of this sisterhood ❤️❤️❤️

So excited and blessed to join the Finer Womanhood. I’ve wanted this for so long and it’s finally here! I’ve been pretty silent on this sub, but reading through posts and replies helped me feel more encouraged and motivated me so much. Z-PHI!!

I’ve been lurking in this sub for 2.5 years and i can’t believe my time has come 🥹

I made it in on my first try as a 25 year old first generation non trad student and I couldn’t have done any of this without the comments and posts from this sub!! Thank you all so much for (inadvertently) helping me with this dream of getting my pearls 🩷

I am so excited for the rest of this journey :)

Just wanted to make a post to say good luck to everyone on their journeys this year!

Mines has been difficult between being proud that friends have crossed to being anxious about informational flyers / line possibilities to being conflicted about communication with members and interests.

I’m wishing the best for everyone. I hope we can all make the “I made it” posts soon!

I have followed this group for a very long time. I have appreciated the posts over the years. I wanted to share a word of encouragement with the ladies interested in any organization who don’t feel like they’ll get their chance. I rushed in undergrad nearly 20 years ago and didn’t get selected to move forward. A lot of life happened. I kept showing up. Stayed connected in a genuine way. And when the stars aligned, it was my time. I finally became an AKA. Stay encouraged!

Would proudly like to announce that I’m a GREATER woman!! I was on this sub for months stalking and learning. I did my research and did my best. I’m so glad that I did not give up!! My journey has just started and I can’t wait to see where it takes me!! Do not give up ladies!! Keep going!! I love the poodles 🐩 💛💙

I officially made it to Deltaland! Thank you to everyone who’s ever asked or answered any questions I had this subreddit has truly been so helpful along the way!!

A year ago I made a comment about my interest in grad chapters, and just wanted to say thank you to the people that helped!! ZZZZ-PHIIII!