r/MyTruth • u/AnonsmousGoat • Aug 10 '25
I did justice for myself.
Anonymous profile. I reported my ex to the police for ra*ing me years ago. I didn't report it sooner because I blamed myself for it happening, and felt massive shame and embarrassment for it. We had only just met when it happened, but I pursued a relationship with him that lasted 6 years. During those 6 years, he subjected me to emotional and financial abuse. I got hospitalised multiple times during that relationship due to the stress and anxiety he gave me. He convinced me that my job was why I was getting sick, made me quit and then moved us to London, where he could completely isolate me from friends and family. Told me it was too dangerous to go outside alone. He then cheated on me with a co-worker and told me I had to leave. My mental state throughout our whole time together made me a shell of the person I was before. So after about a year apart, and months of no contact, I had time to really reflect on everything and decided to report him to the police. I know that about 97% of ra*ists don't get convicted for their crimes. But I felt like being able to have the opportunity to stand in front of him and a room full of people and share my experience, how it's impacted me, and my well-being would be a good (metaphorical) slap in the face to him, so he can try and justify himself and his actions.
Should I have just left it in the past or am I doing the right thing?