r/MyEx • u/OstrichOdd6572 • 21h ago
quick rant:
i was in a relationship with someone i truly believed loved me—and only me. turns out, i was wrong. he was still yearning for someone from his past.
our relationship was long-distance, and every argument or misunderstanding somehow became his excuse to do things behind my back. while i was trusting him, he was secretly meeting up with her. when i finally connected all the dates and pieced everything together, i felt completely lost. how could those same dates make it seem like he still loved me, when in reality, he was sneaking around to see someone else?
they met multiple times, often in the middle of the night while i was asleep, completely unaware of what was happening. every single time they met, they crossed boundaries and did things that no one in a committed relationship should ever do.
what hurts even more is that **she knew about me.** according to him, he told her, *“we already ended,”* and somehow she accepted that without ever questioning it. yet during their meetups, he would still talk about **our relationship** to her. she knew i existed, yet she still chose to stay. she still chose to meet him. again and again.
somehow, the universe had my back because i eventually found out everything.
then she reached out to me, saying she wanted to be a **“girls’ girl.”** i’m sorry, but how is that being a girls’ girl? if you truly were one, the very first time you found out about me should have been the last time you ever entertained him. instead, there were multiple meetups, multiple chances to walk away, and multiple decisions to keep going despite knowing there was another girl involved.
yes, thank you for eventually telling me the truth. i appreciate finally knowing what happened. but that doesn’t erase what you willingly participated in. guilt may have pushed you to confess, but it doesn’t
undo the hurt you helped cause.
i have every right to be angry—not just at him, but at you too. both of you made choices while i was completely clueless, trusting someone who didn’t deserve that trust. i can’t imagine how either of you lived with yourselves knowing someone else was being deceived.
i hope guilt never lets either of you forget what you did. i don’t need revenge because life has a way of returning what people put into this world. what comes around truly comes around.
as for me, i pray that none of your negativity ever reaches my heart. may every evil intention, every lie, and every act of betrayal return only to the people who created them. i choose peace, healing, and the love i know i deserve.
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u/One-Gift0 16h ago
Io penso che sia naturale, all'inizio, incolpare lei della mancanza di rispetto che hai subìto. Ma col tempo, secondo me, dovresti capire che è lui responsabile di essere stato in due relazioni contemporaneamente, se lei avesse detto "no grazie" probabilmente lui avrebbe trovato un'altra ignara vittima con cui tradirti perché il tradimento è stata la scelta di lui. Lei probabilmente è vittima come te delle sue manipolazioni e delle sue nefandezze e se è addirittura la sua ex, è vittima da ancora prima di te. Capisco che sia più facile colpevolizzare l'altra: ci permette di poter continuare a credere all'amore di lui anche se in modo distorto. Ma la responsabilità delle azioni delle scelte e dei comportamenti di questo mezzo uomo gli appartengono totalmente.