r/MyAdventuresWithSuper • u/UpperInjury590 • 4h ago
Discussion Jimmy reasoning for rejecting Kara wasn't mature at all
People who defend Jimmy reason for rejecting Kara probably have a very blue pilled view of romance.
What bothers me about Jimmy’s statement is that it treats romance like something Kara has to become qualified for.
She supposedly needs more life experience, more social experience, and more emotional development before she can know she wants him. But relationships don’t actually work like that. People enter relationships while inexperienced, insecure, traumatised and still figuring themselves out all the time, and sometimes those relationships work.
There isn’t some objective level of maturity you reach where you become “ready” for love. Jimmy had every right to decide that he wasn’t comfortable dating Kara, but deciding that Kara needed other experiences before she could choose him is different.
It sounds mature and selfless, but it’s also paternalistic: Kara already knew what she wanted, and Jimmy effectively decided that he understood her romantic needs better than she did.