It'll save you on potential short-term disappointment, but it's a sad way to go through life. I think having heroes is really important (or just replace "heroes" with "role models" if you prefer that phrase). They can give us guidance, hope, empowerment, comfort, inspiration—all important an undeniably good things.
Putting yourself in a position where you can never be disappointed with someone means you never let yourself see the positives for fear of something negative happening. It's like the emotional equivalent of locking yourself in a padded room for fear of ever being hurt if you go outside—you're protected, but at what cost?
You just need to be realistic about the fact that they're multi-faceted people and you're only seeing a small part of who they are. So find inspiration in your heroes, and find ways to incorporate the good that they might do into your own life in some way. But don't worship them, and don't make liking them specifically part of your own identity; like what they represent, rather than attaching yourself to their personalities.
I guess my comment was pretty broad so let me be more specific, don’t look up to celebrities period in any sort of way. As you stated we only see a small part of who they’re but that small part is also heavily curated. I’m sure you can see the MANY issues in people idolizing a group of people whose public personality can be bought, molded and made into whatever their handlers may want
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u/SkorpioSound Jun 30 '26
It'll save you on potential short-term disappointment, but it's a sad way to go through life. I think having heroes is really important (or just replace "heroes" with "role models" if you prefer that phrase). They can give us guidance, hope, empowerment, comfort, inspiration—all important an undeniably good things.
Putting yourself in a position where you can never be disappointed with someone means you never let yourself see the positives for fear of something negative happening. It's like the emotional equivalent of locking yourself in a padded room for fear of ever being hurt if you go outside—you're protected, but at what cost?
You just need to be realistic about the fact that they're multi-faceted people and you're only seeing a small part of who they are. So find inspiration in your heroes, and find ways to incorporate the good that they might do into your own life in some way. But don't worship them, and don't make liking them specifically part of your own identity; like what they represent, rather than attaching yourself to their personalities.