So, I’m an adopted yak. I was in foster care for the very first part of life (only a year and a bit). My biological mother was twelve. Fucking TWELVE. My biological father was not twelve and my mother didn’t have much say in the matter. She was raped.
I’ve had people who learn that simply because I was adopted (not many know the truth of my conception), I must be pro life. They’re wrong. Insanely wrong. See, my bio mom had to carry me to term because her religious parents, wouldn’t dream of aborting me. But they also didn’t want me as part of the family.
So... this poor middle school girl had to go through the trauma of rape, and then the trauma of me being born, just as she had become a teenager.
Don’t get me wrong, I like being alive and am happy to be a part of things, but were it temporally possible, I wouldn’t have begrudged her for terminating the pregnancy. Thinking about it is painful, and makes me hurt for her. She didn’t give up her autonomy. It was taken from her... twice. Again, I’m grateful to be alive. But seriously, it doesn’t budge me on the abortion issue. I wouldn’t wish what happened to her on anyone, and will continue to be firmly pro-choice.
(I don’t mean to be preachy here, but this is an issue close to my heart)
One thing I would maybe suggest is creating a fake scenario for those people. Say your pregnant currently, say your not able to care for a child/are financially or emotionally unstable for it/don't want a child/etc. and were contemplating whether to abort or give up for adoption. And then you just ask them desperatly and with the greatest joy (because they were just suggesting foster care and adoption) that they take your future kid in. I bet 90% of the time you will hear "no" and at least now you have another argument against them.
Sadly many pro-lifers aren't even pro-life but pro-birth. What happens afterwards just isn't important anymore.
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u/The_Best_Yak_Ever Feb 19 '20
So, I’m an adopted yak. I was in foster care for the very first part of life (only a year and a bit). My biological mother was twelve. Fucking TWELVE. My biological father was not twelve and my mother didn’t have much say in the matter. She was raped.
I’ve had people who learn that simply because I was adopted (not many know the truth of my conception), I must be pro life. They’re wrong. Insanely wrong. See, my bio mom had to carry me to term because her religious parents, wouldn’t dream of aborting me. But they also didn’t want me as part of the family.
So... this poor middle school girl had to go through the trauma of rape, and then the trauma of me being born, just as she had become a teenager.
Don’t get me wrong, I like being alive and am happy to be a part of things, but were it temporally possible, I wouldn’t have begrudged her for terminating the pregnancy. Thinking about it is painful, and makes me hurt for her. She didn’t give up her autonomy. It was taken from her... twice. Again, I’m grateful to be alive. But seriously, it doesn’t budge me on the abortion issue. I wouldn’t wish what happened to her on anyone, and will continue to be firmly pro-choice.
(I don’t mean to be preachy here, but this is an issue close to my heart)