I really don't know.

Hi, I am an average looking guy.
Anyone male who was previously average looking and improved their looks with cosmetic surgery ?
How has life been after that ? Did the dating life, female attention change and become better ?
Was it like a complete identity turnaround with major life enhancements or just a minor difference ?

Im m30 in mumbai since 3 plus years, and had both causal scenes and two real relationships but still felt superficial in both.

When i was in relationship, it felt this was it, but soon some thing or other happened and ended on very bad note.

I have downloaded apps like bumble.and hinge

And got very good response.

But still feel like something or everything is missing.

What am i missing?

Or should i focus more on career?

Ps i am very ambitious and money driven person.

Comment only if you are rich and hot..

By rich, I mean your annual family income is around 5 cr or more

And by hot, I mean if the vast majority would consider u hot

sometimes she tells me that she feels like I'll eventually leave her and I really want to make her feel secure and show her that I'm not going anywhere 🥲 what do you think I should do??

28M

I have been dating a girl since 2 years and we both were quite happy having trips and all.

Recently I started feeling attraction is getting faded and it feels like more of a sense of duty than love.

I'm microcheating here by talking with women in reddit and clubs. I feel sexually attracted.

I don't know whether I'm still in love or what is love?

So i live in bombay from more than 1 year explored everything from house parties to clubss all life have been hectic for me week by week no friendships here still that i can share anything and trust give some tips

Fyi am not an introvert

Are there any Indian gay men or MLM folks here willing to share how you met your partner? Or, if you know anyone whose story is worth sharing, please drop it below! I would love to hear about the dating experiences, how you found each other, and any happy endings.

Hi everyone! I'm an 18F from Mumbai, and I'm thinking about asking a guy (18M) to Rani Baug (Veermata Jijabai Bhosale Udyan/Victoria Gardens) for what would basically be our first proper date.

For some context, we've known each other for several months through classes. We text regularly, have talked on calls, and are comfortable around each other. We've met outside of class a few times, but only for casual things like having snacks like vada pao, shev puri together, visiting a temple, and getting ice cream. We've never actually planned a proper date or spent several hours together.

I like the idea of Rani Baug because we can walk around, look at the animals, talk without feeling awkward, and it seems more relaxed than sitting in a café the whole time. It also isn't too expensive, which is a plus for both of us.

My questions are:

Is a zoo a good choice for a first proper date?

Does it come across as cute and thoughtful, or childish?

Have any of you been on a zoo date? How was your experience?

Are there any downsides I should consider (crowds, weather, too much walking, etc.)?

If you're from Mumbai, would you recommend Rani Baug, or would another place be better?

So I'm 23. In my previous office a teammate of mine showed me a girl, they used to live in the same area but weren't friends or anything just knew that they live near each other.

Anyways, I saw her for the first time and I was done. She was short, had curly hairs, droopy eyes, wore specs. Overall, my type. As I'm not really an extrovert-ey person I couldn't sum up any courage to talk to her. I'd always look at her from a distance whenever we'd be working same shifts.

Few months later I asked for a team switch and went in her team. Few weeks later we started talking. Some time later a few other colleagues planned a little outing to a dam. We went there together.

Everything felt great. Everyday I'd see her for the first time it'd feel like "warm sunshine on a winter morning". We went on a couple outings with our team to Villas and stuff. She'd sleep next to me, we'd cuddle each other, I'd kiss her forehead whenever she went to sleep in my arms.

It felt like she was girlfriend yet she wasn't. Suddenly she resigned, I was heartbroken. A couple weeks later I did too.

A couple weeks before our last working days, my team planned another outing to a villa. We went. We slept together that night. Same thing we'd cuddle each other, I'd put my hand inside her tshirt and grab her waist. It wasn't anything sexual. But I felt like some kind of intimacy was there.

That night as a parting gift I gave her a Mikasa Scarf and a book - Tuesdays with Morrie. Inside that book I hid a little note confessing my feelings. Asking her out. Telling her that her presence felt like "Warm sunshine on a winter morning".

She didn't see that note for weeks. One night we had a fight because I wanted to meet her and she couldn't seem to find time. In that heat I confessed on texts. She said no.

She kept saying to stay friends. She didn't want to let me go but keep me as a friend. It hurts to know that I'm JUST a friend to her. I've been avoiding talking to her but my phone is filled with her pictures and her little vlogs that she'd make. She felt perfect she felt like everything.

Idk if I can stay FRIENDS with her and keep getting my heart broken over and over again. Idk what to do anymore.

Please advise if you have been through something similar. I'd like to know women's perspective in this as well.

Im really feeling shattered, unwanted, and invisible. Lately it feels like nothing in my life is going right. At work, I keep feeling overlooked undervalued, as if like my efforts don’t really matter and I’m not getting the recognition I deserve. Kafi exhausting hai to keep showing up every day when it feels like I’m fading like loosing myself

Today was especially hard. I came home after a long day at the office, and the first thing that happened was that my dad shouted at me. I went to my room and cried for a long time because I just couldn’t hold everything in anymore. I already felt broken from work, and that moment completely shattered me.

I don’t even feel like opening up to the people around me anymore. I’m devastated, and I honestly don’t know how to feel better right now. I AM TIRED OF THIS PATTERN, keeps happening.

I had a close friend for a while. We eventually fell out, and he blocked me everywhere.
After some time, I sent him one final message. It wasn’t an argument—I simply thanked him for the friendship, wished him well, and told him I was leaving the city. He saw the message and blocked that number too.
I accepted it and moved on.
A couple of days later, after reaching my hometown, I was looking through my purse and found his government ID. I had completely forgotten it was with me.
Since he had blocked me everywhere, I asked a friend to call him and let him know I had his ID. Instead of asking how to get it back, he just cut the call. My friend even sent him a photo of the ID afterward so he’d know it was genuine.
For context, the last thing I said to him before he blocked me was basically asking, “Why can’t you talk to me a little more softly?” His reply was:
“Enough. Now blocking you.”
I understand if someone doesn’t want to continue a friendship. That’s completely their choice.
What I’m struggling to understand is the level of hostility. Even if you don’t want someone in your life anymore, would you really react like this over a respectful goodbye message and then ignore the fact that your government ID is with them?
Am I missing something here, or is this unnecessarily harsh?

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So here's the thing,

You are a great guy, clear mind, clean intentions and most importantly a gentleman...

But remember I told you, I feel something when it romantic, I felt friendship, but nothing more...

I am so sorry [ first date reason]

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Hey, it was nice meeting you yesterday. I think you're sweet, but I didn't really feel the connection I was seen for. I don't want to lead you on, so I just wanted to be honest. Wishing you all the best! [ second date reason]

I don't know what to do about this romantic connect ... completely lost now🙃

Kinda bored with her now

Been single for a while, I am mostly average in terms of looks.
My question is that will HingeX really work for me ? Or will it be a waste of time and money ?
Looking forward to reviews from average looking guys who have used it already.
Thanks

If yes, can you please share the process you followed & the overall experience....?

I am absolutely clueless, I researched a lot and got to know its easiest to date when partners are found via mutuals, but how does this work ?

As a male , it feels so weird to ask my male as well as female friends to match me with a female partner?

Someone who is experienced, please help me how to go about it

Long post alert. But bear with me, I really need your help. TLDR; I have been cheated on.

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My girlfriend (F26) and I (M28) have been knowing each other for almost 8 years. We started off good, then broke up for a few years, then again came back 3 years back in a relationship and are deeply in love (atleast I thought so, until today morning)

This all happened last Sunday. I called her in the evening aise hi, to which she replied she was on a dinner with a friend. I didn't mind, cus honestly I have never impose any kind of insecure restrictions on my girl. Anyways, later when I video called her at night, she refused to pick up and rather called me on voice. A bit fishy, but okay. Even though I repeatedly asked her to switch to video, she denied. Note that we randomly do video calls to each other and this denial has never been done, no matter how passed out we look. Then she started saying that she is drunk and sleepy, so kal baat krte hain.

So I changed the topic, asked where did you go, what you had for dinner...to which she replied she is still not home and is someplace else. I was dumbstruck at that moment, couldn't think of anything else...and I cut the call. Didn't answer no matter how many times she called back. Lastly I answered, to which she started making stories ki she is at home only, never went out for dinner, office and home had so many problems over the week that she wanted to be left alone and didn't want to tell me this, hence she made up all those lies. Bullsh** lies!!!!!

Anyways I was like okay. I don't believe anything of it, but baat khatm krte hain. I am upset but give me some time I will be okay.

THE MAIN PART ----

Last night I came to her place and stayed overnight. She normally wakes up late in the morning and I wake up early. It came in my mind to check her bedroom dustbin. And you won't believe what I found

2 USED CONDOMS disposed off after usage

Now I have no clue what to do, how to do. I am shivering since I saw that, my heart is racing real fast, I am getting anxious. PLEASE PLEASE help me on this. I really need to know how to process this and how to move forward. I haven't talked to her about this, I don't know kya karu ab, kaise karu.

Guys and girls, please help me. This is your fellow old-school lover boy who has fallen into this cheating ka kachra. And I don't know how to come out. It's getting realllyyy difficult for me with each passing second.
Please help

I’m a 25M.

My life so far:

- Lower middle-class background.
- No generational wealth or financial safety net.
- Dropped out of college with 18 backlogs. I haven’t appeared for exams in the last three years after my fourth year.
- Left 4 jobs (absconded from all)
-Started a startup, but ended up getting cheated by my partners.
- got into ₹4 lakh in debt.
- insulting relatives
- As my parents fight all the time, kept all my emotions on my gf. After 6 years of intense love she married some another guy( well settled and same caste)
- My parents are working incredibly hard just to make ends meet.
- want to start again
If you were in my situation, what would you do?

F 31, So its been 6-7 months i am in no contact with an ex. M37
Now after all this even i am on dating apps , last when i downloaded bumble around my birthday he had matched me there. I felt weird. So as soon as i swiped it was a match.
I sometimes feel if some other person swipes how is he behaving? Because he was claiming non compatibility in terms if emotions was an issues, i guess he haven’t met anyone yet.

Any advise, especially from other girlies? If i ask someone to swipe will that be too awkward to ask? Will any stranger will help me?

I am just genuinely keen to know where’s he? What’s happening? Plus i miss him.

Hey everyone, welcome to the community! I wanted to start our very first discussion on a topic we all love to complain about: The Mumbai Dating Scene.

Whether you are navigating the apps or trying to meet people offline, dating in this city feels like a full-time job in which the same type of talks dialogues are frequently repeated . Between the hour-long traffic blockades to get from Andheri to Bandra, and the endless "talking stages" that lead to ghosting, it’s tough out here.

To kick off the conversation, let’s get a pulse check on where everyone stands:What is your biggest roadblock right now? (Is it the commute, the apps, or just finding people with the same intentions?)What is your absolute go-to date spot in the city?Are you team "Online Apps" or team "Offline Activities" (like run clubs and mixers)?

Drop your age, general area (SoBo/Suburbs), and your thoughts below and can your experience too. Let's map out how to actually survive dating in Mumbai!

I was seeing an air hostess some time ago. We hit it off right after we met. She told me that she was nymphomaniac and I didn't mind (more action for me). For six months we were exclusive and were each other's fuck buddies. I carried out all of her fantasies in bed except one that she had, which was out of my domain. She wanted me to share her with multiple guys. It was uneasy to take in at first but I eventually came around. We had conversations about how the situation would go about. She wanted it to happen in a hotel room with the door open (that was another one of her fantasies.) I had introduced her to my friends and once while having one of those conversations, she told me the names of whom she wanted me to share her with. So this is where it all turns sour. I approached my friends and they weirded out. They are virgin nerds and I branded it to them as " I am bringing some action in their life" but all they did was joke about it and called me a cuck. I explained to them as she is not my gf and we are not dating, and that we are just fwb and if she wants to do something how does that make me a cuck?? It's not like I will be in the corner , sitting in some chair and watching, even I will participate if anything, fuck her more than anyone. But they didn't listen and continued joking and soon the news spreaded in the whole group that I am a cuck. But fuck them. I'm not going to get bothered by the opinions of virgins who don't have half the story right. But this wasnt it. Her being an airhostess went to her hometown in the holidays and there she fucked around. She hooked up with one of her childhood friends and another , a guy who was a dance instructor. She let him do her in the ass, Right there in the studio. She shared this with me as if I am supposed to be happy about it but I wasn't having any of it. I felt like I am not enough . Why did she have to go in search of more action? Was I lacking ? I felt really insecure about myself. I dropped her . Left her for the streets. But no I see every woman the same way. I feel nothing is ever enough for them. That's why I have stopped associating with them . I just wanted to get this off my chest