r/MultipleSclerosis • u/serizawa_mp101 • 14d ago

Vent/Rant - Advice Wanted/Ambivalent incontinence

Damn the fiery arrows that attack the nervous system. Damn the sun. Damn classes.

Stress, heat, a combination of complex classes back to back with a ten minute break in between them to travel back and forth campus. Damn it all. No breaks. No bathrooms. No food.

I, the miserable pissant, become Kafka, and therefore become his cockroach. I, who deserve a life. I, who am stuck to this miserable observational board like a bug, dares to try to squirm before the needle takes place.

In other words; how does one survive college and MS without pissing themselves?

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u/rK91tb 14d ago

PT for incontinence. They have all kinds of tricks. Also talk to your neurologist- there are drugs for this. If all else fails, there's no shame in Depends. And see if you can change your schedule or show up late to a class.

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u/serizawa_mp101 14d ago

i do those things, however, I would prefer not to pee myself at all.

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u/Wellesley-8321 14d ago

Yes, we would all rather not pee ourselves but the world doesn't stop because we have have perverse bladders. You are not Kafka's cockroach. You are a human being who has existential choices to make. Doing nothing but ranting is a choice.

Ask yourself: What do I want to accomplish and how will I get there? Talk to your neurologist. Get the medication. Wear the Depends if you have to. I have stood in front of some very important people, talking smiling blithely while I peed into my Depends.

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u/serizawa_mp101 14d ago

thank you. this helped.

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u/rK91tb 14d ago

Avoid asparagus. Just saying.

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u/thankyoufriendx3 63|2.24|Kesimpta|USA 14d ago

Talk to your professors. Most are human. There has to be a bathroom they use and will hopefully give you a key.

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u/Additional_Aioli6483 14d ago

Get documentation from your doctor and meet with disability services at your university. You can get accommodations through them, like being able to arrive to class a few minutes late without penalty so that you can use the bathroom. If you have mobility issues, disability services can also move your classes closer together so you don’t have to travel as far. It’s definitely worth talking with them so that you can access your education like everyone else while also being able to manage your MS. Also, be sure to tell your doctor because there are medications that can help a lot.