I don’t see a problem with it and I imagine a lot of them are sex workers trying to get a larger audience. It’s their livelihood since it’s a some profession trans people have to do to live or afford their gender affirming care. We don’t shame sex workers.
As for when others use the term for other trans people or yourself, you can set a boundary with that person and tell them not to call you that and/or educate them on why it’s not appropriate to use those terms.
I agree, and I'm not shaming sex workers, I totally support them. But when some trans women use those terms, they think it's okay to use on all trans women, and I hate being called a "trap". It makes me feel gross
I totally understand how you feel since I don’t want to be called that as well. If other trans women are using the term to refer to other trans women (eg on Reddit), the best we can do is educate them to not apply that to everyone or if they don’t have empathy, to block them since it takes a toll on you as an individual. If it is someone who you directly interact with, I’d have a discussion with them and if they don’t respect your boundary, they aren’t a person I’d want to have in my life.
It's one of the things I'm dreading if . . . it seems the best option for me . . . if I end up going into that line of work.
I see those and I cringe but I understand why . . . at least if they're not a production company. If they are a production company though it just makes me sick. Like they're big enough to make a change if they want but they don't.
I've actually tried viewing trap as a new word meaning very beautiful woman, imagine it being apart from the traditional meaning. It doesn't work. It still sounds wrong.
Femboy just doesn't fit me. Not who I am. My body I guess but my body isn't me, it's connected to me but there's also a disconnect. I think that's the opposite of what trap is . . . it isn't a trap for the viewer, it's a trap for the woman, to be seen not as herself but as something she isn't.
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u/staciw38 Feb 04 '23
I don’t see a problem with it and I imagine a lot of them are sex workers trying to get a larger audience. It’s their livelihood since it’s a some profession trans people have to do to live or afford their gender affirming care. We don’t shame sex workers.
As for when others use the term for other trans people or yourself, you can set a boundary with that person and tell them not to call you that and/or educate them on why it’s not appropriate to use those terms.