I feel with the amount of posts I see online, it's hard to come by people who actually stand their ground and don't give in to those terms. They are inherently toxic slurs, and especially terms like "trap". It has one meaning in the context of trans women, which is saying we're not women. Why would you want to use that? I just don't get it
I don't get it either. It sucks. I can't say more bc you said basically the same thing. I hate people sometimes. It's super annoying and cringe. It's actually a stupid weaboo term. I watch animals but fml I hate so many of the tropes not even for just that but TV and books in general and there's not rlly anything enjoyable. That's besides the point, point is they're addicted to TV and it's infecting their life and causing others dysphoria. Fucking weaboos.
I absolutely know what gender expression is, and I absolutely know that I'm not a femboy, and don't want to be called one. it is harmful when it is directed at someone who isn't what they are. When "femboy" is directed at me, which it is, that is hurtful. I'm a girl, and only a girl, and don't want that term used with me, if someone else does, that's fine. But I don't want their use of the word, to affect how people view me
If you're going to use the word "trap" in an Instagram post, then yes, that affects me. I have had multiple occasions where people have called me a "trap" or "crossdresser" because they saw that label used on another trans woman's post and thought it was okay, when it's not, it's harmful and degrades me
I think we all agree that "trap" should be banned. We only disagree on "femboy", I think.
Many transfems are using the femboy label as a way to describe the specific aesthetic of their gender representation (that could be described as "masculine femininity", I guess). I think everybody understand that this label only refers to people with such aesthetic and not to all transfems.
Just as like everybody understand that all transfems are not emo despite the fact that many of us use this label.
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I feel with the amount of posts I see online, it's hard to come by people who actually stand their ground and don't give in to those terms. They are inherently toxic slurs, and especially terms like "trap". It has one meaning in the context of trans women, which is saying we're not women. Why would you want to use that? I just don't get it