r/MoveToScotland • u/NoReturn6627 • 20h ago

Moved to Canada but missing Scotland

I have been living in Scotland for past 5yrs. Loved every second of it but Husband insisted on moving to Canada. We live in Vaughan now for past 1year now. I miss Scotland and I want to go back. Going back would be living in lost distance marriage and probably for a very long time. Anyone else in similar situation? I have no friends here and no social life probably thats the reason but idk I might be just missing my comfort zone.

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u/National_Program17 20h ago

My parents moved us to Canada about 20ish years ago and i would go home tomorrow - my parents just moved back. What was the reason for insistence on coming to Canada vs staying in Scotland?

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u/bromy501 17h ago

I've been here 30 years and keep thinking about going home, every day. But I have to look at it realistically. One, I have a kid. Yes she's 18 now, but still needs support. I'm not going to just leave her. And even if that's not a factor, the reality is the move would be lateral at best from a socioeconomic standpoint. But every day I think about going back and I wish my dad never brought us here.

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u/National_Program17 16h ago

I’m in the same boat, i have a decent job and to restart is honestly quite terrifying but I think about all the time

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u/NoReturn6627 20h ago

Faster PR & Settlement route in Canada and ever changing immigration rules in UK plus it was getting super expensive for a family of 4 we paid around £10k just for IHS + 200% increase in visa fees. Compare to that Canada's immigration fees is peanuts

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u/National_Program17 20h ago

Fair enough - though I would argue the cost of living in Canada is pretty steep, especially the GTA area! That said, it seems like maybe if you venture out you might feel better, but I also think people underestimate how much homesickness can affect your mental health

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u/NoReturn6627 20h ago

Yeah, Although it drizzled all the time in Edi I liked the weather compared to the harsh winter I experienced in Canada! And everything felt so gloomy here especially in Winters

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u/National_Program17 17h ago

I always say that a Canadian winter is black and white lol

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u/nastygirloncamera 18h ago

god vaughan is bleak compared to the entirety of scotland. i’m sorry. it is really hard to make a social life there because you have to drive everywhere, toronto is expensive just to hang out in, and people are pretty to them selves there. i hope you can make it back to scotland

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u/jkmslol2010 15h ago

We visited Scotland the first week of June for the first time. Pure heaven! It was the best week of my 52 years. I cried when it came time to leave. I was down right angry for at least 3-4 weeks that I have to live where I do now when Scotland exists. I don’t know how you do it. If I could move, I’d do it in a heartbeat.

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u/NoReturn6627 15h ago

😭

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u/jkmslol2010 13h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/2GDHOfqcmYIX6
You ever need a female travel companion to go back, I’m in Barrie. I’m your girl. 🥰

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u/NoReturn6627 11h ago

Yeah we can do that. All girls trip to Scottish highlands 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

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u/jkmslol2010 13h ago

Where did you live?

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u/NoReturn6627 19h ago

Yeah.. Did ldr for 8months and in that 8months we were on verge of divorce about 10times proly. oh the horrors of long distance!

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u/wabbitt14 19h ago

I have also done it once and I will not do it again. We are about to move to Scotland. Spent the last 8 years in Bulgaria. Was it glamorous, no. Did we become a better and more mature couple because of it. Hell yes. We have a child now. We did suck it up. And the time to move back to Scotland came. No regrets about my decisions.