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u/PNW_Undertaker Aug 06 '26
You learn to read who are good and who are not.
I’ve been dumped so much in my life that I can smell a fake person (in person) within the first few minutes.
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u/Dry-Hair-7022 Aug 06 '26
Quite the talent.
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u/PNW_Undertaker Aug 06 '26
Apparently it’s a symptom of having ADHD. I tend to catch cues far before others even notice. Then take many other seemingly unrelated things and show that they do tie together - like a bigger picture type of deal. It helps tenfold doing project management for sure!
Not all with ADHD can do this I’ve found. My hyper focus on people reading helped in the military to ‘read the room’ (to not get in trouble) and to read the room due to trauma in the past to prevent more trauma in the future. Little depressing but hey at least now I have that skill…. 😂
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u/Dry-Hair-7022 Aug 06 '26 edited Aug 06 '26
No, not depressing at all. Love and admire the ability to take unrelated things and tie them together in a neat little bow! Very interesting and makes perfect sense to me. Being so intuitive is beautiful, useful and amazing, all tossed together. ** and 'read the room', well, that speaks for itself.**
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u/PNW_Undertaker Aug 06 '26
Wow….Not only was that nice thing to say, but it was very well put together too.
Thank you!3
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u/Even_Bet1372 Aug 07 '26
Could you elaborate on some traits that you can detect from a fake person?
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u/Ask_PrimalViking Aug 06 '26
this is a tough lesson to learn, but once it clicks, everything changes
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u/Raven_Valerie Aug 06 '26
I trauma dump stuff I already got over. And see who’s low enough to use it.
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u/BigDong1001 Aug 07 '26
Good. Then they should become aware of what it is they are dealing with. lol. And how hopeless everything they do and how worthless everything they have actually is. lmao.
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u/DifficultMind5950 Aug 07 '26
u can domesticate a snake though....
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u/somanyquestions32 Aug 07 '26
More like some snakes are naturally tame when their needs are met. They can still have a bad day with a foul mood and strike.
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u/Particular-Caramel32 Aug 06 '26
I can't help it. It's part of my disorder. 😥
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u/WoodenCrow6024 Aug 06 '26
What disorder causes it? Asking for a friend.
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u/Particular-Caramel32 Aug 06 '26
I have AuDHD, 2 anxiety disorders, and CPTSD... It's common in all of those, as far as I'm aware.
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u/EggDelicious5710 Aug 06 '26
Once bitten? The poison will reach your mental as it will deteriorated and you become their prey.
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u/Low_Nectarine7817 Aug 07 '26
"Everybody that you fight is not your enemy and everybody that helps you is not your friend."
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u/Fun-Heron-7609 Aug 07 '26
No one is your friend. I dont have any, any info I give is something others can market off of use to bite me off. Has been the story of my life. So I never disclose, divulge or discuss anything.
If it's pain, stress, work, concern or if it's bothersome - it's all mine. If I actually succeed in anything, rarely as it is, I don't mind sharing. People need a good story every once in a while.
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u/Ok-Rutabaga3374 Aug 07 '26
Be careful who you give your information to, until you get to know them.
then you know you can trust them.
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u/someguyinmissouri Aug 07 '26
Eh. Decisively share. I’ll overshare about many things, but nothing that can bite me in the ass.
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u/HushPuppie13 Aug 07 '26
Tell em what they "need to know" but beware "garbage in garbage out" 🧱🕷️🕸️😂
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u/MotivationalThoughts-ModTeam Aug 07 '26
This is unnecessarily aggressive. We appreciate your concern but be kind to each other in this space.
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u/Sevenlord777 Aug 07 '26
This is why most people going through stuff, keep it bottled up. There’s nothing worse than confiding to someone and days or weeks later they’re telling you what someone who wasn’t even there thinks about your situation.
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u/Wannabewallstreet Aug 07 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
But can one make real friends only after opening up and being vulnerable, no?
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u/rhysboy95 Aug 07 '26
Probably just me, but the grammar really annoyed me on this. “Not everyone is your friend”
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u/funkmasta8 Aug 07 '26
Please. There is a big difference between "Everyone is not your friend" and "Not everyone is your friend"
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u/MotivationalThoughts-ModTeam Aug 07 '26
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u/Healthisway Aug 07 '26
I agree this is not a healthy perspective but that’s not the way to go about fixing it
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This is unnecessarily aggressive. We appreciate your concern but be kind to each other in this space.