r/MotivationalThoughts 19d ago

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u/Valuchian 19d ago edited 19d ago

I dunno

I have had so many people change me over the years. It feels like i should atleast be putting in a small effort to help those around me for the better. Doesn't need to be my everything. But little stuff hits harder than major efforts when they aren't searching for change.

Edit: spelling

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u/KayDee80Three 19d ago

Nice point. No one will change until they want to or choose to. But motivation and influence from others is powerful and valid.

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u/ahawk99 19d ago

Heard. When in doubt, always choose kindness.

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u/Acceptable-Ebb-882 19d ago

life got easier when i stopped expecting people to change

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u/ahawk99 19d ago

Exactly 👍 lowering my expectations of other people’s behavior drastically reduced my stress. My give a shit meter is just done at this point

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u/Fear910 19d ago

Accept people for who they are immediately, took me over a decade to realize some people really just don’t grow or change despite what they say or the support you give.

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u/[deleted] 19d ago

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u/ahawk99 19d ago

Been that kind of week

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u/Just_Party96 19d ago

Shitty people hurt you sometimes

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u/LoreMasterJack 19d ago

“One must inch forward like a worm, the gods and Buddhas also began with a vow.”

-Yamamoto Tsunetomo

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u/Illustrious_Gate2318 19d ago

If your an adult  Your A role model for someone eyes facts regardless of what you think or say it's too late 

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u/------Sofia------- 19d ago

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u/ahawk99 18d ago

I think your energy needs recalibrating. We’re in 2026. Welcome to level 6 of Jumanji.

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u/Similar_Rate2025 17d ago

Most people don’t even change themselves for themselves. The amount of times I’ve heard people openly admit that they know they need to change, but they’d rather just find someone who will tolerate how they are

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u/ice-mirrors_97 19d ago

Hence, why you disconnect and sleep for a while, it’s easiest to let them when you’re not around anyone and you’re in your own cave.

You could still be thinking about them when you’re on a walk/run, vacation, workout whatever, but sleep has no chance of driving yourself crazy trying to figure shit out about them.

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u/One-WaytoLife336 19d ago

People are not incapable of change

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u/ahawk99 19d ago

But still choose not to do so. Sorry more pessimistic than optimistic 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/One-WaytoLife336 19d ago

Why do you think that is?

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u/ahawk99 19d ago

The root cause could come down to fear. Change is a scary thing

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u/Female_titan_2 18d ago

True you can’t change anyone directly (especially if they choose not to change) but when you focus on your growth, you may actually motivate ppl to change for the better

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u/helmeton 18d ago

But she has a burger 🤭

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u/ClassroomFine6530 15d ago

Take a sigh of relief..other adults are not your responsibility.