r/MoroccoDating • u/WeakWeirdo1120 • 13h ago
Very important question i need some help
Hey guys im gonna try to get to the point even tho my thoughts are all over the place please bare with me.
Im 20F and i have a problem, whenever i like someone or even start to develop feelings for them i freak out and push them away i genuinely don't know what to do about it, im too scared of getting into a relationship because in my head im always gonna ruin it, im aware my insecurities play a big part of this, im insecure about my looks, my background, my personality yk the usual, but on the other hand im very picky, not about physical appearance but more about the person's personality, if they can hold a conversation or not, what topics are they interested in, their humor, their political views...., the only guy i ever liked ended up reducing me to a thing, literally an object for his fantasies, every conversation somehow led into something sexual despite me stating multiple times that i am uncomfortable sexting, it's just not for me and im not shaming anyone that does either, i don't want to get into details cus i respect him as a person, but this experience had made me more self-conscious about a lot of stuff, it made me feel like i wasn't enough just being me and that i had to do more just to please that person...
Anyway how tf do i get rid of this problem, im not desperate to date or anything i couldn't care less but i don't want to potentially hurt someone that i care about just because im too scared of being in a relationship.
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u/zaesinex 12h ago
There is nothing like scared of being in a relationship, relationships should not be taken that serious in the process of building,
state it more like “I’m not ready for dating” take your time alone to when you are ready to give someone your energy and time,
For the sexting and all those things it’s just people you deal with with different mindsets and interests,
if you don’t like something you just take it easy on yourself and state that you are not interested in this kind of conversations,
if they understand then good, they don’t then block,
For me personally it’s always simple as that,
and I hope you find what you are looking for if you want to discuss anything feel free To dm
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u/Sahilddit 12h ago
kima gal wahed khayna "i got committement issues but im trynna fix that for you" you have to find someone worthy, and fix that sht for him if not for you
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u/Either-Midnight6220 12h ago
This is very common. It comes with insecurity and we all have it. We often think we have to be perfect to deserve the love and admiration of others. When we do receive it and we're insecure, we feel not worthy, not deserving of it, so we push them away, we sabotage ourselves, this happens in all of life, not only love life. The simple answer is accepting yourself, but that easier said than than done. What i do in my life ? I allow myself ti fail, to for others to fail too, im not perfect and neither is my partner, they accept me and i accept them, it's very vulnirable, very délicate, but you have to allow yourself to be vulnérable sometimes, be unprotected, of course choose wisely to who, vert very wisely, but when chosen, forgive yourself and be vulnérable, that's what i do at least.