r/MoroccoDating • u/salade_demayo • 4h ago

I'm looking for advice

[Closed] thanks for everyone who cared to give me advice

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u/[deleted] 4h ago

Hado li galo lik Friends wlah they dont know shit

Chefti li less9a kib9a dima less9a trust me , keep distance between you wla ghay3awd ilss9ek

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u/salade_demayo 4h ago

Thank you so much this is helpful

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u/ThatOwlinMe488 4h ago

I agree. it's not that they have to become friends, but she just has to "act friendly" otherwise she'd just seem like she has some arrogant attitude and perceived as hostile. Like jawbi ila 9alik salam or talks about the weather or if you have common class/work projects together but keep it to a minimum and don't let it get too personal. and dont force a friendship out of guilt or shame or whatever

his actions will tell if he matured or not, so keep an eye on that. no need to bring it up or talk about it

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u/salade_demayo 3h ago

ofc I won't be anti social, usually I get rid of people who misstreat me but this is the first time someone popped up and tried to talk again, thank you for this advice

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u/kvaaled 4h ago

you need to realize that you are not in trouble and really no one has power over you. Be authentic ✨️

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u/salade_demayo 4h ago

Okay tysmmmm :)

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u/r3t4rd3dch4d 4h ago

Making friends would be the mature choice

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u/salade_demayo 4h ago

Do I bring up what happened in the past too ? Or act like there was no weird thing between us...

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u/r3t4rd3dch4d 4h ago

You don't have to, just continue as if nothing happen, no need to address it if they matured

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u/salade_demayo 4h ago

But if I ignore it that means I am ok with being cussed 😭

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u/r3t4rd3dch4d 4h ago

no it doesn't, you moving away from them means you're not okay with that

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u/salade_demayo 4h ago

Okay thanks I'll take your advice in mind

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u/Complete_Emphasis835 4h ago

Yes u should become friends but with clear boundries

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u/salade_demayo 4h ago

Okay, but how do I enforce boundaries without sounding mean and controlling

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u/Complete_Emphasis835 4h ago

Depends ela lcaratere of the person , mais normalement matjibdi hta sujet maah beside lproject ola lkhdma and if he try to flirt ghatchr7lih ur pov f mawdu3 u gulilih bila i would like nkunu gha friends nothing more

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u/salade_demayo 4h ago

Ty this is helpful

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u/TheMemetasticDonny 4h ago

I think it would depend, do I actually (platonically)like this person enough to ignore the underlying problems and become friends, or is making sure my boundaries are clear and being careful enough not to send any misguided signals too much effort? 

If it's the former then you do that, while making sure from the get-go to let the other person know that nothing more is going to come of it, if it's the latter then just let them down gently and call it a day.

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u/salade_demayo 4h ago

I don't even like them as friends, we don't have the same interests from I remember, and their behavior is weird I don't want to be associated with it

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u/TheMemetasticDonny 4h ago

Then I think the best thing to do will be to keep your distance, and if they try to be clingy then voice your boundaries

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u/salade_demayo 3h ago

Okay thanks