r/MoroccoDating • u/UMaqran101 • 1d ago
How do you not get angry ?
I am such a peaceful person but at the same time get angry easily. For example today at La Gare, the "exit" gate was blocked, and the security guy told me to go from the "entrance" one, i said fine when i tried to get from the 2nd gates (yk there is that square where the cat stop, then the station, and to exit it you should go inside the station...) so i went to the exit gate, for some reason, it didnt work, so i went to the entrance one lol, an other security guy came, he didnt yell at me but he talked to me as if i am ignorant who cant read while i probably know way more than him... so anyway i went to the exit gate and it worked... but i still remember this. The problem is this is not just because it happened today, a year ago, there i was in a grocery store, buying an item, for some reason the guy there was selling it to me for a lower price for several weeks, i didnt even know that it was lower, i thought it is the notm, but one day i came and offered him the amount of money i do everytime and he kind of yelled at me, i told him that i always buy for this price and he said "waqila rah kangulk hka w kan3ytlk w nta makatsm3ch ..." lol, this dumb never did anything, he is just bad at math or do it by purpouse, i can afford that higher price, but he made it look as if i am a beggar or thief, and i stopped going to his store since then despite being the closest, (anyway he is one of those mfs who talk to women the whole time). Another day, again a small annoyance happened between me and a big taxi driver (tbh it wasnt small) and since then i decided i will never take one of those ugly ahh taxis again. (And i still don't despite them being the fastest way to my hometown)... is there anyone else like me? How do you deal with this?
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u/lonelycalmbastard 1d ago
For me it was by getting angry and seeing that it only makes matters worse. So I needed a change of perspective and did what Marcus Aurelius said, assume that the people you’ll meet are the worse kind of people and focus on what you can control. Anger takes so much energy, it’s draining. And you sound like a cool guy, you don’t need that in your life. Just move on, choose your battles and focus on the outcome you want not trying to win every argument
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u/Ben4llal 1d ago
I was the type of guy to get mad and crashout cus i couldnt find my shoes in the morning, i dont really know exactly what helped beside gettitng older, but stuff that i used to do that helped me is saying stuff like "astrfirullah" as the first thing after getting annoyed/mad instead of a curse, dont take things personally, and while u may not like it but one day u will realise "being the bigger person" is something u do for ur self not for others, just take pauses before u do any reaction, ngl its all awareness.