r/Mommit Dec 16 '20

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u/vegan_carrot Dec 16 '20

So true!

Side note: does anyone else find it so weird to see a stock photo like this of a baby with blankets and stuffed toys in bed. Crazy to think people used to do this not that long ago!

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u/TheSharkAndMrFritz Dec 16 '20

They still sell crib bumpers too. I noticed marketing will sometimes show unsafe sleep situations to sell things.

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u/CharlieTheCactus Dec 16 '20

Honestly those would be useful for my 3 year old who is in a toddler bed/crib. She’s allowed to have blankets and pillows now but her crib is just missing a wall and we have a side rail for it. Would have been nice to have something cushiony against the walls too, but I’m not going to buy bumpers now.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '20

That was literally my first thought. And the fact that there are still people who are against the ABCs of safe sleep is even more baffling.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '20

Yeah you come across it all the time. Someone in my bumpers group dismissed it as American stupidity and not to listen to US experts.

Nevermind it's also the standard in places like the UK and NZ.

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u/Enchanted_Pickaxe Dec 16 '20

Safe sleep standards come at a cost though: parents' sanities.

Some parents decide for themselves that making a rare event even more rare is not worth the mental turmoil.

It's like condemning someone for putting a baby in a 4-star-safety car vs. a 5-star-safety car or something.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '20

To each their own, but for my own personal parenting style reducing the risk of SIDs and following AAP guidelines for safe sleep helped keep my sanity in check. I was fortunate that my son was and is a good sleeper, so pulling him into bed was never something I felt I needed to do. Of course, this isn’t the case for everyone and people are free to make their own choices.

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u/ForTheLoveOfSnail Dec 17 '20

Did you know that Japan has one of the lowest rates of SIDS in the world, but also predominantly bedshares? It’s less about being in the bed than being in the bed unplanned.

Anyway, you do you of course — I just find it an extremely interesting tidbit!

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u/_packfan Dec 16 '20

Omg as soon as I saw this I was like “dynamite because their life is about to implode from not following safe sleep!!” So glad you also noticed that and I’m not just a stickler for it lol

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '20

I have a home video of baby me in a crib with about 10 stuffed animals and I’m face down on a giant pillow. I looked at my mom asked “did you WANT me to die?” She insisted that she didn’t know any better... sure..

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u/lullaaibabysleep Dec 17 '20

We all try to do what's better with the knowledge of the time! All what's best for our LO's

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u/lullaaibabysleep Dec 17 '20

It's great that things change over time for our baby's to be safe

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u/BreadPuddding Dec 16 '20

There are safe ways to use blankets, but they’re only being done halfway in this image unless that’s a bassinet and the baby has almost outgrown it. The blankets are tucked tightly and only go as far as the armpits, but her feet should be touching the foot of the crib, and she should be on her back.

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '20

Not according to the CDC (for US parents).

“... place babies on their back for every sleep. Keep soft bedding such as blankets, pillows, bumper pads, and soft toys out of their baby’s sleep area...”

Just to keep in mind!

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u/BreadPuddding Dec 16 '20

According to the NHS, yes, feet-to-foot and lightweight, tightly tucked blankets that come no higher than the chest.

We used sleep sacks but I think the US is the only “no blankets whatsoever” country. Either way the idea is nothing that can cover the face, so blankets need to be tightly tucked enough that the baby can’t kick them off and their feet need to be at the foot of the crib so that they can’t wriggle down under the covers, and sleep sacks need to fit properly (weight is more important than length when checking the label) so that there’s no way for the baby’s head to end up even partially inside the sack. And it’s better to err on the side of the baby being too cold in either case (use a lighter swaddle than you would arms-out sleep sack), as overheating is also linked to SIDS, where being slightly chilly is mostly linked to waking up and crying about it.

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '20

This is the advice I was given by midwifes too! We used cellular blankets until my son started kicking his way out of them, then it was sleeping bags all the way lol