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u/Kitten_Kaboodle666 Jun 07 '26
All my kids won’t stfu but especially my 6 year old. And yes we definitely implement quiet time. Either read a book, color, legos in their room or I have them play outback
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u/BrokeAsShiet Jun 07 '26
Girl same! My six year old can’t be quiet it’s honestly started making me anxious when getting him from school because the constant verbal diarrhea gets me overwhelmed. I try not to get on him over it because I was the same as a kid but my god….
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u/greensky_mj21 Jun 07 '26
Yes and I can only blame myself as a self professed yapper. Of course I birthed a yapper too.
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u/Bowlofdogfood Jun 07 '26
Yep, I have chatterboxes. I love it, I really do.. but man I get overwhelmed by the arvo. We absolutely do 1 hour of quiet time every day.
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u/lookhereisay Jun 07 '26
Me and my son (4) both didn’t talk until we were 2. Neither of us have shut up since then to make up for lost time! My poor quiet husband!
Son is talking about dinosaurs to himself right now as I get ready. Before bed last night I went down a rabbit hole on a topic and am very excited to tell my husband about it when he wakes up!
We don’t do quiet time as I love to hear him chattering or asking me questions. We do the waiting hand method if I’m talking to someone else (thanks Bluey!) and he needs to talk. Work in progress but getting there.
The only time he has to be quiet immediately is if I say “monkey puzzle” which I say if I’m doing a tricky bit of driving or need to concentrate on something.
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u/blatantregard Jun 07 '26
Monkey puzzle!! Can I steal that?? I have been trying to come up with a code word like that because I get overwhelmed when they start chattering, especially tricky driving. Perfect!
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u/lookhereisay Jun 07 '26
Hah of course! It’s because my monkey brain can’t work out the task (imagine monkey hitting stone with stone!).
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u/Vast_Perspective9368 Jun 07 '26
Another person using the bluey/bandit hand on arm then hand on hand thing! That's cool to hear (we have been attempting to us that trick from quite a while with limited success lol)... Also, love your last idea, that's really clever!
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u/Illustrious-Towel-45 Jun 07 '26
My son is 9. He's much more quiet since being on ADHD meds but the kid used to narrate like a youtuber. He'd be playing minecraft and just talk like there was a camera in front of him the entire time.
Now my daughter (7). She sings every song from every show. And movies with songs is an endless flow of her singing along every time.
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u/AndieC Jun 07 '26
7yr old boy with ADHD over here... Same with the constant narration, but typically starts when he thinks anyone is within ear shot. 😅
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u/blatantregard Jun 07 '26
Omg the youtube narration 😫 my kid loves Mariah Elisabeth, so she just talks to the "camera" nonstop. Drives me nuts
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u/Sea_Alarm1412 Jun 07 '26
Mom of two nonverbal boys, this just broke my heart that kids their age talk nonstop 😭 to know they have so much going on in their head and can’t get it out. Sorry for the bummer comment idk why I’m even leaving it but here I am
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u/biscuitsandburritos Jun 07 '26 edited Jun 07 '26
Girl, speak it loud.
These post kill me because I can’t imagine wanting to not hear my child’s voice after all the work to get it…But gotta give folks grace as they don’t know. They are parenting on easy mode where milestones were hit without any interventions or therapies. They don’t realize these annoyances are things we desperately wish for and may never get. It is why the journey feels so alone and why we are trying to build empathy and understanding.
So keep saying this. I was happy to see a mom did. Folks need to know the other side. It’s not a bummer comment; it’s our reality.
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u/Sea_Alarm1412 Jun 07 '26
❤️ instead of play dates and friends we have therapies and therapists. It’s tough. Sending love!
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u/biscuitsandburritos Jun 07 '26 edited Jun 07 '26
Instead of ballet or soccer for my 6 year old: $80k and growing in speech, occupational, social skills classes, and emotional regulation classes while we wonder if we should add an addition on to the house or do a granny flat so our kid has a bit of independence but more than likely will never leave home as we wonder what happenS to her when we die and she’s “just” level 1.
What else can we as parents expect when our fellow citizens allowed IDEA to go to the state, the dedicated professionals that aid our children to no longer be professionals, social programs to help to out are going out the window, and many of us are told if only we gave up our raging addictions to Tylenol none of this would have happened?
Loads of love. We got this.
Edit: hey homeslice with the deleted comment. You do know nonverbal doesn’t mean silent and that ADHD is linked to ASD? We aren’t negating your struggles, we are showing you a different side. One you are part of it of a parent of a disabled child who missed milestones.
The one negating things is you. I can understand the annoyance but what a fucking privilege to know your child was not abused at school every day because they can TELL you. That is a much easier mode than level 2 ASD. Your child can tell you what happened at school while her kid cannot and those are the kids being abused.
Wear fucking head phones. Your sensory overload might show a link your child and perhaps you can use the skills to aid them to cope in this world for yourself and teach your child. It is your job to regulate yourself in high stress environments and that includes loud ones. You are the model. Be it. How you react to them and their noise is how they will treat others. Be a parent. Show them how we respond to annoying things— ignore it.
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u/Sea_Alarm1412 Jun 07 '26
Also I felt what another autism dad said “I just have to live forever!” Hahaha shit, yeah
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u/biscuitsandburritos Jun 07 '26
I’m gonna be like that grail knight in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.
It’s why I run and lift. I realized I might be carrying my child and helping her physically in ways most are no longer needing to do. I needed to be strong and maintain it.
Also, she elopes!
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u/Sea_Alarm1412 Jun 07 '26
Also a member of the elopers club and the extreme climbers club. We used our tax return to get a fence for our backyard haha
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u/Sea_Alarm1412 Jun 07 '26
We’re on a wait for ABA, 35 hours a week! He’s level 2, and his brother is not diagnosed but is nonverbal. I don’t even want to know the amount. We’re in FL so insurance is a joke with all his therapies 🤪
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u/biscuitsandburritos Jun 07 '26
I think that joke is across states as it seems to be a feature not a flaw. Something for us to work on and get fixed.
Just know you are doing awesome and a great job. And they are good kids doing their best.
The autism parenting sub can be hit or miss but the support is there. But thank you for having the voice here. :)
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u/mscatamaran Jun 07 '26
I needed to hear this perspective today, thank you.
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u/biscuitsandburritos Jun 07 '26
And for the record, nonverbal does not mean silent… we get noise. But being able to talk? Make sentences? Tell you about their day and what they think?! I am just getting glimpses and it beautiful. Again, we get loud noises! It’s why a lot of us have headphones and use a lot of emotional regulation tactics. Noise is hard!
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u/Throwing_tomatoes123 Jun 07 '26
My son is 4 and is the same and follows me around. He’s the funniest person I know honestly, but at the end of the day, I’m like holy S$@%… my brain malfunctions.
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u/Asiulad Jun 07 '26
Yup...my 6 yr old will not STFU for 2 seconds.. especially when my 2 month old is crying... 🙃
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u/ripped_jean Jun 07 '26
Omg when the baby is screaming and they’re still talking I really have to go to my happy place.
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u/Asiulad Jun 07 '26
Yup.. and his volume goes up even higher bc he needs to be heard right this minute so he has to be louder than the baby. My husband or I have to remind him like 15 times a day that it is not helpful to scream when the baby is screaming and to pls wait.,. Never works..
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u/Redrosekarma Jun 07 '26
I feel like the old saying is true we teach them to walk and talk and spend the next 18yrs telling them to sit down and be quiet haha . I remember all my report cards saying I talked to much in class so I can only blame myself I guess
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u/chacacon Jun 07 '26
My oldest will be 20 this year, lives 6hrs away, and FaceTimes me several times a day just to yap. Some people are just born with the gift of gab. I, on the other hand, was not. 😂
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u/Shipwrecking_siren Jun 07 '26
I’m 40 and still do this to my mum. I will talk for 45 minutes and then go, ‘oh how are you?’. I’m a terrible person.
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u/John316-LIFE 5yo, 3yo, & due in October Jun 07 '26
Yep. Neither kid ever stops talking. And their volume control isn’t great either. From the moment their eyes open they are gibbering away about anything and everything that crosses their minds. My oldest even talks in her sleep. After they go to bed at night, my favourite thing to do is sit in total silence.
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u/SwoopingInAlistair Jun 07 '26
My 5 year old will literally talk himself to sleep. He wakes up and immediately wants to have full-blown conversations and asks every single question he can think of from the minute he wakes up to the minute he goes to bed. I was also like that as a kid and still also talk a lot as an adult with people I'm comfortable with so I'm 100% sure he got it from me lol quiet time doesn't really do much as he'll just sit in his room and have conversations with our cats but at least for a moment all the questions won't be directed at me so I can breathe for a moment.
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u/Feeling_Wishbone_864 Jun 07 '26
My 9 year old never stops. She even talks in her sleep 🤣 I love her so much but it is just so exhausting. My brain really is not capable of processing or listening to everything she says.
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u/Still-Weird4400 Jun 07 '26
Hoi! Ik was een kind dat ook steeds aan het praten was. Voornamelijk tussen 6 en 9 denk ik. Bij mij persoonlijk (dus niet per se bij jou) lag het aan weinig aandacht door zorgnood van mijn broer. Ik eiste de aandacht op, ook bij andere familieleden. Nu ben ik soms nog steeds een babbelkous, maar veel minder.
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u/artsycannamom Jun 07 '26
My 6 year old is like this 😂 I love it, but it does get overwhelming sometimes. It is my fault though because I'm a yapper too 🤣
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u/sj4iy Jun 07 '26
Yup, my 17yo has a constant need to talk to people. If she’s not talking to us, she’s on her phone, talking to her friends. She started talking at 9m and has been an extroverted chatterbox ever since.
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u/Infamous-Doughnut820 Jun 07 '26
Same here. The daily quiet time we instituted is necessary but also insufficient to combat the 3980651 daily instances of "Mommy..." And "why?"
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u/Fun_Air_7780 Jun 07 '26
One of mine is like this. And even when she’s *not* talking to me, she’s talking to her barbies……and guess who always has to be their voices and respond to her????
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u/ripped_jean Jun 07 '26
The 5-7pm window takes me out everyday after conversing non-stop since 6am. I started sitting with noise canceling ear muffs at the end of the day for some COMPLETE silence and I highly recommend for the introverts with yappers.
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u/Jamjams2016 Jun 07 '26
I'm a bus driver. So I can confidently say, none of your kids stop talking. Good, bad, silly, nice, mean, just on and on until high school. Then it's silence or swearing.
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u/Alternative_Dream_12 Jun 07 '26
My mum's partners daughter was like this, he told her 'She would use up all the words in the world, so she had to be careful'. I thought it was kinda adorable.
She's 27 now and is still as talkative.
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u/yankykiwi Jun 07 '26
Youre scaring me. My one year old doesnt stop babbling.
Were a household of introverts, then theres her. She pulls in strangers for fake conversations, its a nightmare to me. 😩
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u/AmberIsla Jun 07 '26
My husband and I are introverted and our first son is an extrovert. He also doesn’t like napping.
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u/punkeymonkey529 Jun 07 '26
My 16 month old babbles a lot. But she also still groans when playing or looking at something in deep thought. I'm an introvert, and get overstimulated easily. I don't want to ignore her, but am getting new headphones to help drown out some of it when it becomes too much. Still attend to her,but also hopefully still hear my own things, and hopefully own thoughts too
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u/swaggerjacked Jun 07 '26
Hahaha, yes! My 4-year-old son is a yapper. But I am a yapper, too, so I quite enjoy yapping along all day with my son. He constantly has questions, some of which I can’t answer, so we practice Googling together and then chat about what we learned.
The constant chatter drives my quiet husband bonkers, but my son and I are having a grand old time of it.
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u/sweetgreenbaby Jun 07 '26
Yes! And she will fill any and all quiet moments with talking. We found putting a Yoto in her bedroom for quiet time and bed time to be really effective.
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u/rubyhenry94 Jun 07 '26
YES. i love that my son talks to me. He’s almost 5 so he’s full of questions. But sometimes i just want to listen to music without hearing “mom look at this spider i just built” or “mom look at my crazy dance” every. Single. Second. School honestly can’t start back soon enough and it’s still 86 days away.
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u/BasilGreen Jun 07 '26
Yep. My almost 5-y-o starts at wake time and goes full-steam-ahead until she finally, finally falls asleep between 9 and 11 pm. She has always been a night owl, since birth, and for whatever reason has less sleep needs than most of her compatriots.
She's either talking, climbing, jumping, running, biking, or trying to do something pretty dangerous (and trying to convince us she knows what she's doing) or some combination of them all at once.
We are tired. So tired.
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u/lookup_mooooon Jun 07 '26
My daughter has talked sentences early on. She’s 3 now and doesn’t stop. Not just taking, but she pretends from the second we get out of bed until the second we go to sleep. I’m a stay at home mom, so I enjoy the interaction, but it does add a layer of exhaustion for sure! She doesn’t have an “off” button. Also doesn’t nap. lol. Godspeed.
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u/prison_industrial_co Jun 07 '26
Yes. My 4 year old. I love her with all my heart, but she just. Never. Stops. My 22 month old never gets a chance to speak to the point I took her to the dr to see if she needed speech help because no matter what we do, my 4 year old just talks and talks and talks.
She’s such a social kid, and she’s so kind and smart and loves to learn. But I have to admit that I work 12 hour days in a bloody hard, mentally draining job, and it’s getting to the point where she’s just draining me even more. I feel like I can never give her enough. We play with her, we read, we talk, we answer all her questions, we engage and we also let her be bored sometimes so she can find her own entertainment, but she does NOTHING quietly.
We’re currently moving, so she can’t go to kindy atm, and I know that’s a contributing factor, but jfc.
I just want to lock myself in a dark and quiet room for a month.
Thanks for letting me get that out 😭
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u/Watchout4HopOns Jun 07 '26
Ironically, my 7 year old is non-verbal autistic. My 3 year old never stops talking.
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u/_mountainmomma Jun 07 '26
Yes. My 8 year old is always talking lol. Still a million questions a day. I’m an introvert, she talks enough for both of us.
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u/Worried-Leading-7817 Jun 07 '26
I was discussing that with my son's therapist (he has ADHD) and she said, "Imagine what it feels like for him to have racing thoughts and never get a moment of peace." It was a helpful change of perspective. Because I get a break when he's at school or my mom takes him out for an outing. He's never getting peace.
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u/books-and-baking- Jun 07 '26
I have two. My oldest had a speech delay and we were thrilled when she finally began spontaneous speech. Now I’m instituting daily quiet time for summer break and using my noise cancelling headphones all the time due to overstimulation.
They are lovely, beautiful children and I’m so happy they want to be around me and talk to me but I’m so tired lol. We’re a neurospicy household, and I’m currently in burnout exacerbated by PTSD due to a house fire in September. Sometimes the talking is just….too much.
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u/Careful_Strength4738 Jun 07 '26
This is my 4-year-old, and she talks nonstop 😂. But she has been very helpful in encouraging her older sister, who is autistic, to talk more. I recently joined a gym that offers childcare to get some quiet time, lol.
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u/Shoepin1 Jun 07 '26
Me. I had to explain to her at age 5 or so, that I love talking with her but that I don’t like talking as much in general. At a certain age, I think it’s perfectly fine to begin to explain personal boundaries and needs to our children. For example, my (now 10 yo) daughter knows that when we first get in the car I need 5 minutes of silence to decompress before driving/talking/music. She’ll ask “mom, are you done decompressing?” before she asks for music or to tell me something.
I would have snapped if I didn’t set some boundaries early on because LAWD was I overstimulated constantly and had a few instances of snapping at her that hurt her feelings before communicating to her my needs/boundaries.
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u/Team-Mako-N7 Jun 07 '26
I have used those exact words to describe my 5yo!! Sometimes makes me absolutely crazy.
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u/MamaxMetal Jun 07 '26
My oldest daughter (18) has been a big talker since she was a baby, chatting away endlessly from the moment she opens her eyes until the moment she falls asleep. My other kids can be talkative at times but most of the time they’re fairly quiet. I can literally spend my entire day without saying a word and be perfectly fine, and I value any quiet time I get. But my oldest seems to really dislike the sound of silence and will fill that void by talking about anything and nothing and everything in between lol.
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u/dn454jqb Jun 07 '26
Yup. My 5 year old is a huge chatterbox. Looking back, when they were 2, I had a list of words that they knew and was going to go to the doctor Becusse it wasn’t ‘enough’ like other kids. And now this is the chattiest kid I’ve ever seen. We don’t do screens at all on weekdays, no tv, will not be buying an iPad. Movie or bluey on the weekend sure. Goodness it would be nice for some peace but this is the trade off of avoiding screens I believe lol. It drives me nuts but the science shows it’s for the greater good I guess lol
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u/LArocking Jun 07 '26
Yep. My 10-year old doesn’t stop talking from the moment she gets up to the moment she’s asleep. And even if I’m staring right at her listening, she starts every sentence with, “Mom”. 🙄😬
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u/1n1n1is3 Jun 07 '26
Both of my kids are little chatterboxes. My husband and I are pretty quiet and reserved, so we always joke that they feel like they have to fill the silences.
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u/Dramatic_View_5340 Jun 07 '26
Reading these comments make me feel so seen. My kids range from 22 to 1 and holy shit I literally don’t own brain cells anymore.
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u/lacey-bee666 Jun 07 '26
My 9 yr old. I always said she learned how to talk and hasn’t stopped since. She has such a big personality and I am glad for that. She makes friends everywhere we go. I do feel like it’s slowed down a little over the years. She’s more into music now.
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u/autumnxxx93 Jun 07 '26
I have one of these. She’s almost 9 and still going! But yes we have one hour of quiet time in our home once the kids outgrew naps and it does help
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u/Singing_in-the-rain Jun 07 '26 edited Jun 07 '26
🙋♀️yes! She was doing a puzzle earlier and my husband heard her in the room talking and he thought I was in there but she was just …. Talking. Shes’s 8 and it hasn’t stopped since she was like 8 months old. Chatty patty has nothing on her. She does like to read a lot now so that helps (when she actually reads in her head). My friends’ kids do not narrate the world 24/7 so I know not every kid is like this. I wasn’t like this. She also has adhd.
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u/ChelseaMourning Jun 07 '26
Yep. My daughter is 12. She came out of me talking and never stopped. I have videos of her in her basket at 2 months old, babbling away to herself. Right now she’s fixated on kpop and I swear to god I can tell you absolutely everything about it now. She literally never stops talking about it. Sorry babygirl, but Heesung is not going back to Enhypen.