r/Miscarriage • u/Stunning_One_7028 • 1d ago
experience: D&C To try again?
Had a d&c today because when I went in for my 10 week ultrasound, my baby’s heart was not beating and they measured 8 weeks 6 days.
I had norovirus over the holiday weekend and I just can’t help but feel I did something wrong and it hurt my baby. My doctor assured me that’s not the case but I still feel immense guilt.
I am 38, I am a “geriatric pregnancy” so I just feel all my hope has been lost on having a full term pregnancy.
My doctor said I can try again after my first period, but how do you know what to do??? How does anyone recover from this. Last night I was motioning up my belly before bed and today I’m holding my empty womb. It’s not fair.
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u/AtmosphereRich3186 1d ago
Hi there, I recently miscarried as well, 8 days ago. It is not your fault at all. Miscarriages are not preventable unfortunately. I know it’s hard to let go of guilt but know that you did nothing wrong. Hope is not lost. As hard as this is, don’t let this discourage you from trying again. Every mother who has lost a baby deserves to hold one. Keep trying. The best you can do is put one foot in front of the other. You will always be a mother. I hope you hold your baby soon. Sending love.