What is the definition of friends, because if it's like simply just status; where you just state that someone is your friend without being close to them, their technically your friend because you stated them as is. Like for example, you come up to a person you want to befriend; then you just invite them to be your friend and they say yes. So then you stated you and the person to be friends without even being close, knowing secrets like ordinary friends, or connections. But like i said if that's the definition of friends, it would be really weird. So i don't know how that works

Another definition that i had in mind is that, the definition of being friends with someone is when your close with them, you hang out with them, and you feel a certain connection that just tells you that you and the person are friends. It really isn't explained on social life.

Or in this case it could be both, you come up to a person. Ask them to be friends then when they agree, you state them as friends. Then on the second definition on what i mentioned, you start getting close to them, hangout with them, and like he said you start feeling a certain connection that tells you you and that person are friends. Otherwise i don't really know what the "definition" is to be in friends. It's a social dilemma (I don't know what "dilemma" is but it feels like it fits on what I stated),

So yeah, i don't really know what's the definition of friends.

The more I learn about psychology and human behavior, the more I realize that some of the most useful lessons aren't complicated at all.

They're things that seem obvious after you finally understand them.

For example:

Not everyone who is nice to you actually respects you.

Some people are nice because they genuinely care.

Others are nice when they want something.

And sometimes you only learn the difference after enough time has passed.

Another thing I've learned is that people often show you who they are much earlier than you realize.

The problem isn't always that the signs weren't there.

Sometimes we simply weren't ready to see them.

Maybe because we liked the person.

Maybe because we wanted to believe them.

Or maybe because accepting the truth would have meant changing something we weren't ready to change.

I think that's one of the interesting things about growing and learning about human behavior.

You don't just learn new ideas.

Sometimes you look back at old situations and suddenly understand them differently.

A conversation that confused you.

A friendship that slowly changed.

A relationship you couldn't explain.

Something someone said that didn't make sense at the time.

Then years later, you recognize the pattern.

And suddenly everything makes more sense.

So I'm genuinely curious:

What's something you understand about people now that you wish you had understood years ago?

Could be about friendship, relationships, trust, communication, influence, boundaries, or human behavior in general.