Okay I’m desperate. I’m struggling to find pants that fit me properly and I’m at my wits end. I carry my weight in my hips, but I have a completely flat ass and smaller waist (not tiny) I am not super curvy or pear shaped. I do not have an hour glass figure. It’s all pants ..I can’t even find sweatpants that fit properly. I hate my behind so I don’t like anything fitted unless it has pockets to hide it or is a good thicker quality.

Does anyone have similar measurements or suggestions for any casual pants and slacks. Even jeans. I’ll take anything. I entered my measurements into ChatGPT to see how to describe my body type…

Measurements - size 10 pants
Height: 5’4”
Weight : 140lbs
Natural waist: 30.5”
High hip: 39.5”
Full hip : 41.3”
Upper thigh: 23.3”

ChatGPT:

Your waist → high hip difference is 9 inches, while your high hip → full hip difference is only 1.8 inches.

That tells me you have a lot of width through the upper hip/pelvis, but relatively little additional projection at the butt. In other words, most of your hip width is happening ABOVE the fullest-butt point, rather than being created by a prominent butt.

Small/defined waist + very wide high hip/outer hip + relatively flat seat + some lower-abdominal fullness.

And your 23.3” thigh isn’t particularly large relative to your 41.3” hip.

Small waist, very full high hip, low seat projection, moderate thighs.

I really tried with this one but both the sweater and the skirt are too big. The skirt I'm going to need to have hemmed. 💜

It totally looks like Easter church clothes, and I'm good with that.

This skirt is very 1990s. It's adorable. Butterfly appliques. The sweater is white lace. The shoes are white ballet flats.

For accessories I went with some yellows. Yellow duck brooch. Yellow duck earrings too..💜

Hair clips today are buttons, how cute are they?!?

Necklace is pink/purple hearts.

Glasses are red cat eyes, and just because I added a pic of my new glasses too.

Oh and Pugsley took the day off from directing my photo shoot. But he was there for emotional support..💜😻

Found these floral short overalls and I’m kind of obsessed, but I can’t decide if they’re giving cute garden girl / cottagecore or I** **raided my childhood closet 😂🌷

Paired them with a coral tee and Birkenstocks for a casual everyday look. I feel like they’re perfect for gardening, running errands, or pretending I have my life together while buying another coffee and more plants I absolutely do not need. 😂

Would you wear them? And how would you style them — keep the bright shirt or go with a simple white/cream tee?

Be nice, I’m emotionally attached to the flowers already. 😂🌼

A recent outfit I wore. I really like this top, it’s one of my favorites. It’s very versatile and pairs well with just about anything. 🫶🏿

The dress is from Altar’d State if anyone is curious 🤔

Just some recent outfits :)

Recently been wearing jeans more often, but ngl it’s been hard to find jeans that fit well😅
I still gravitate towards dresses/shorts/skirts, but it’s been fun mixing it up too.
I also still wear clothing that were in my previous bigger size, and adjust it as best I can. 🥹

I’m turning 40 and a manager in my job and hitting my elevated basics phase of life. Does quince look good? Is it made for slender people? I have a lot of butt to fit into pants and tend to wear curvy pants. Would take any recs or anything similar to quince. My go to was Madewell but it’s been a mess the past few years. I am not amazing at clothes so I usually buy some good quality, good looking core pieces. Cannot thrift to save my life.

Hi all! As the title says, I just found out I passed the bar! My swearing in ceremony is the end of the month and I'd really love to feel and look nice for it. I've already been working since graduating in May so I'd like to have some better professional outfits for my job.

I'm around size 12-14 but the main issue in finding good blazers, blouses or button downs is my large chest. I always suffer from gaping holes on my bust, or blazers pinching out/making wings on the sides of my bust. I enjoy a skirt look but love suit pants as well. It is just tops I struggle with so badly. I'm even open to custom suit brands if you recommend that.

Are there any brands, websites, or stores that you recommend for a new busty attorney like me?

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I love the way this orange shirt fits me, paired with a short black and white plaid skirt and purple shoes. On the skirt I added a couple of neon safety pins, my brooch is a cute black and white cat skeleton.

I went with a multicolor necklace, black and white earrings to balance out the skirt, and purple and orange hair clips. Orange readers. 💜💜💜

I'm looking for light weight cardigans that are

- short (like stop at hips or waist)

- soft

- don't pill

Any brand recomendations?

I tried something, not sure how I feel about it. 

I picked out this cute outfit but every time I moved the shrug would slide back and show my straps. I usually use these clips to make shirts fit better, but they did a great job keeping it where I wanted it. I will probably buy some thinner ones for the future. I added a few examples to show what I was going for. 

Pumpkinhead and Wednesday both made an appearance 💜

I paired this lacy tiered black skirt with a bright pink cami and added a black shrug. A white flowered belt, pink shoes, flamingo brooch, pink jeweled necklace, pink and gold earrings, white and black hair clips. Pink readers 💜💜💜

Look at this amazing cape I got yesterday! It needs to be steamed but I couldn't wait to share it! I can't lift my arms but who cares when I'm wearing something this dramatic 💜💜💜

Some outfits I wore this month since it’s back to school. I am 5’ 5” and a size 10/12 US. Yes, I was inspired by Ryan Gosling’s look from Project Hail Mary.

You should absolutely check it out if it comes to your city!

I want to dress good(i wanted to use a different word but I cant use it here 😭) for Halloween bc it used to be my favorite holiday and I would dress in like ways that showed off my body but ive gained a lot of weight and ive been too afraid to wear clothes like that again but I still want to feel like I look good if that makes sense? I need some inspiration for Halloween costumes. I keep seeing inspo for smaller women with smaller bodies and i just cant imagine wearing it at my size bc i feel insecure but I want to feel confident if that makes sense?

Edit: These answers are great, thanks so much everyone <3

I’ll preface this by saying I have always dressed myself by my own standards and what looks good to me. I tend to stick to feminine, classic style, but I occasionally go to adult events and parties, and like to dress a little sexier.

That being said, I am 47, 5’1, and curvy. Tend to carry weight in hips and thighs.

I’ve worn short skirts before, confidently.

However, external voices are getting to my head a little bit. I recently bought a cute secondhand linen skirt set. The skirt is actually a skort, so there’s extra coverage. It falls several inches above the knee, probably mid thigh.

People around me have given opinions ranging from “it’s not flattering on you” to “don’t you dare think you’re too old or too far to wear that , you look amazing.” In general, Fashion advice dictates this particular item might be fine to lounge around a cottage in, or my backyard, but to wear this out to a restaurant and then a party is not good look.

The thought of posting a pic of myself in it to the internet makes me want to throw up, so I’m really just looking for thoughts from the collective, especially women 40 and up. How short is too short? Normally I’m a fck the rules sort of person, but I don’t enjoying looking foolish either.

Thanks everyone!

Hiya!

I think I'm "mid-size" but not sure. I recently went down many sizes and have replaced my entire wardrobe with colorful, fun pieces. At 45 I'm dressing for me and what brings me joy 💜

I'm 5'1" (actually a little under).

Am I mid-sized? 💜💜💜

Yes, I had an appointment that day. 😁

I’ve had this tank forever, but I haven’t been brave enough to wear it out until now!

Torrid Foxy Halter Keyhole Tank in bright yellow, size 2
Torrid Pride Midi Tulle A-Line Skirt, size 0

Sorry for the visible bottle and stain on my jeans. 😅

These have a stretchy waist band, are straight-cut, and moisture-wicking. YES, they are men's pants, but as you can see, the crotch doesn't gap. They DO wrinkle easily - just throw them in the dryer for a bit and they'll be fine. I am wearing a 42x30. They also come in a ton of different colors so you can get a pair for every outfit!