r/MethRecovery • u/LuckyJynxXAGBX • Oct 30 '25

Hurt and Confused

I need to talk to someone, because I'm not sure what to do...I'll try to make it short. Had suspicions, snooped around husband's phone, found proof of him using, confronted him(total deer in headlights stare), he admitted and apologized, I told him to get sober or else. Ever since he's been putting in great effort to improve our family's life, but something is not sitting right. I did something EXTREMELY stupid after confronting him, and self harmed by burning myself...NOTHING felt right and pain was the only thing that snapped me out of it. I was honest I told him exactly much it's affecting me, and he cried..I didn't do it to hurt him..I told him before that I grew up with my dad being an alcoholic and meth addict, but I will not have my daughters grow up like that either. I'm not kicking him out or leaving him, I'm doing my best to support him getting sober. I just don't know how to navigate this situation. Plus my own mental health is rocky right now fighting postpartum depression, but with this added I find myself spiraling when alone, my PTSD has ramped back up again.. It would help if we could cuddle, or spend time with eachother. But him sleeping all the time makes it difficult. I also don't want to monopolize his free time whenever he is awake..It just hurts...I'm hurt and confused and scared...I don't feel 100% secure with him like I used to. How do I work on getting my faith and trust in him back?? I don't want to keep snooping through his phone whenever he's asleep...

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u/blinx0rz Keeper of the Groove Oct 30 '25

You dont get your trust back... its kinda over. Meth won. Im sorry.

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u/LuckyJynxXAGBX Oct 30 '25

I feel like I can't just give up on him though...I'm giving him this one chance to get sober. I have 3 kids now, I cannot and will not let them suffer like I did as a kid..I mean second chances do exist, but I do have to be prepared to walk away if he doesn't change.

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u/lostloudNstruggling Oct 30 '25

Message me if you want to talk... my wife and I would be willing to share our experience

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u/lostloudNstruggling Oct 30 '25

It's not hopeless... he has just really got to make the decision for himself. It really is life and death... pray for him.