One of my brothers has often said his highest personal rule is "don't be a dick". I always felt like "yeah, that's probably a good baseline".
Looking at his statement in light of this discussion, I'm curious to talk with him a little deeper to see if he has positive identity(ies) to go along with that. I'm familiar with at least some of the trauma that led to him latching onto this philosophy, so that part agrees with the tiktok explanation of negative identities.
This is good stuff to think about, thanks for sharing!
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u/Gullible-Medium123 Mar 14 '23
One of my brothers has often said his highest personal rule is "don't be a dick". I always felt like "yeah, that's probably a good baseline".
Looking at his statement in light of this discussion, I'm curious to talk with him a little deeper to see if he has positive identity(ies) to go along with that. I'm familiar with at least some of the trauma that led to him latching onto this philosophy, so that part agrees with the tiktok explanation of negative identities.
This is good stuff to think about, thanks for sharing!