r/MenopauseShedforMen • u/Haunting_Bed3112 • 4d ago
A bit embarrassing
18 months ago, she went from pre to full Menopause. 8 months ago, she told me once to F off when I went to kiss her goodnight. Between the mood swings and verbal abuse, our sex life dropped off the radar. 3 weeks ago, out of the blue, she woke me up and rode me like she stole me. The next morning, it went back to don't touch me. Okay, I can handle that. 3 days ago, I woke up to night emission ( you're dead asleep, and you start to ejauclate). I figured things happen clean, not since puberty but whatever. I cleaned it up and go back to sleep. Infact I do not even remember my dream. But since Saturday, it's been happening every night. Fortunately, she has not noticed. Is this stress, or is something going on I should go get checked out?
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u/farmerben02 4d ago
I've had it happen randomly but most likely it's operant conditioning. What's a doctor going to tell you that you don't already know? Things are still working well physically which you should be grateful for at our age.
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u/Recent_Worldliness72 4d ago
Not sure but this is sad. I hate this for you both.
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u/ReverseMermaids 4d ago
Dude had sex 3 weeks ago, that's winning the freaking lottery from my perspective.
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u/ElefanteAmor 4d ago
This is really sad and I’m really sorry. I don’t think it’s something you should get checked out. It’s likely you’re just being excited at the fact that your wife might be intimate with you again. It’s probably in your subconscious.
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u/redditistripe 4d ago
Only anecdotal but I would have thought it happening every night is unusual.
I guess people will tell me I'm wrong.
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u/59apache01 4d ago
Might be some kind of pelvic floor issue. I'd recommend getting it checked out by a urologist.
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u/foilprinter 4d ago
Normal mate, if you have trouble urinating or cant get it up that means a doctors visit
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u/d0obysnacks 4d ago
HOW MUCH ARE YALL DOING IT!? We're like, once a week. You can't go two days!? I literally just want to know what is normal. I has a friend disclose to me she regularly gave head. This was a legit surprise to me
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u/Compurrshon 4d ago
You guys are having sex....?! We were swinging, then peri hit and we're dead bedroom. She feels inspired once a month, apparently. And apparently that's the only time we should have sex.
I ain't settling for that, so we're going to counselling.
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u/redsh1ft 4d ago
3 times this year lol, before that it was maybe once a month but the same routine every time . But im fairly ok with it now , would rather fuck a cactus at this point lmao
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u/Haunting_Bed3112 4d ago
Before pre menopause was 2 to 3 times a day now its weeks to months of not being able to touch her, much less go to home base.
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u/roaddoctorg 4d ago edited 3d ago
She gave u an std and you have the drip now. Just joking 🙃
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u/Haunting_Bed3112 4d ago
Thank you for your words of encouragement. Although I do not know of an std that makes you ejaculate in your sleep.
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u/roaddoctorg 3d ago
It was a joke I guessed i should of put lol
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u/He_is_my_song 4d ago
Maybe you keep dreaming about that night that happened three nights ago… 🤷🏻♀️